Re-educating parents (part one hundred and one)
The mother's briefing:
Her daughter, age 2, did some hard, painful dooeys while constipated, and though around the same time she did a dooey on the potty for the first time, she then regressed to the diaper/nappy, and has developed a strong fear of doing.
Edited quote:
• She holds her dooey for up to a week, even though she’s on a daily cap of MiraLAX prescribed by a pediatric GI specialist.
• When she feels like she needs to d , she gets very upset and actively clenches her muscles
• Most days she’s anxious, crying, and refuses to walk anywhere because she’s afraid she won’t be able to stop the dooey from coming out.
• "She’s developed a strong fear of suppositories and diaper changes from my husband because he gave suppositories a few times as recommended by the paediatrician, so she insists that I handle wiping/diaper changes and she has an intense fear of the suppository now".
• The doctor said she was literally full of shit and needed bowel clean-outs
So I reminded her that the absolutely top priorities are: preventing further colorectal-autointoxication by emptying the girl's dooey-cute as frequently and efficiently as possible (that necessitates anal medication), and breaking her of her by-now-irrational fears/defiant-obstinate withholding, because the last thing anyone need is for this girl to become like one of mine, a lifelong obstipater. I said to the mother - you need the Modified O'Regan Protocol - I know it's not fun for anyone, but it is the least worst option, because it's based on traditional pre-1990s toilet-training methods, the ones which worked.
She just said: we tried a paediatric suppository after the recommendation of our paediatrician and now she’s traumatized from that she is absolutely terrified of diaper changes from my husband because he did the suppository and now every time she has to do doo she cries “only mama do diaper change” it’s so heartbreaking.
There seemed no point in telling her and her husband to toughen up and hold her down and force in the suppositories/mini-enemas, "make the girl cry and do", every day, until she outgrows it - sometimes you have to do her nasty in order to do her right (literally)
Her daughter, age 2, did some hard, painful dooeys while constipated, and though around the same time she did a dooey on the potty for the first time, she then regressed to the diaper/nappy, and has developed a strong fear of doing.
Edited quote:
• She holds her dooey for up to a week, even though she’s on a daily cap of MiraLAX prescribed by a pediatric GI specialist.
• When she feels like she needs to d , she gets very upset and actively clenches her muscles
• Most days she’s anxious, crying, and refuses to walk anywhere because she’s afraid she won’t be able to stop the dooey from coming out.
• "She’s developed a strong fear of suppositories and diaper changes from my husband because he gave suppositories a few times as recommended by the paediatrician, so she insists that I handle wiping/diaper changes and she has an intense fear of the suppository now".
• The doctor said she was literally full of shit and needed bowel clean-outs
So I reminded her that the absolutely top priorities are: preventing further colorectal-autointoxication by emptying the girl's dooey-cute as frequently and efficiently as possible (that necessitates anal medication), and breaking her of her by-now-irrational fears/defiant-obstinate withholding, because the last thing anyone need is for this girl to become like one of mine, a lifelong obstipater. I said to the mother - you need the Modified O'Regan Protocol - I know it's not fun for anyone, but it is the least worst option, because it's based on traditional pre-1990s toilet-training methods, the ones which worked.
She just said: we tried a paediatric suppository after the recommendation of our paediatrician and now she’s traumatized from that she is absolutely terrified of diaper changes from my husband because he did the suppository and now every time she has to do doo she cries “only mama do diaper change” it’s so heartbreaking.
There seemed no point in telling her and her husband to toughen up and hold her down and force in the suppositories/mini-enemas, "make the girl cry and do", every day, until she outgrows it - sometimes you have to do her nasty in order to do her right (literally)
46-50, F
