How do I make sure I become successful in life?
I would like to know how I can be successful in life. I want to know how I can ensure that I am successful in life. I want to succeed in life and make sure that I do. I want to know how I can be successful, and rich and achieve all my goals and dreams. Also, I would like to know how I can make sure that I do no matter what. I would like to know how I can do everything in my power to make sure I succeed in life. I want to make sure I avoid failure and become successful.
There isn’t a a blanket statement way to be successful aside from the obvious platitudes of work hard and study immensely. In order to be a successful on a massive scale you have to be really good at something, really smart on a given subject, and in some cases you have to have a natural aptitude for things that can’t be taught (like business acumen). Going to college or a trade school is a good first step. When I think of success a person that comes to mind is Sean O'Malley. He is an extremely successful person. I would like to know how I can become successful like that. What are the things that I can do in my life to achieve that type of success? I would like to know everything that I can do in my own life to achieve that type of success, money, and fame. Well, if you want to be both, you need to examine all of your best attributes now and what skill set and interests that you have that overlap with what job skills pay the most. I have a very successful career. Done good things, got a few promotions and I’m managing a small team. I do well, but I am no where near rich.
You are gonna have to start your own company or become a VP type or a visionary director of some sort.
What you are talking about is not just work, it’s a grind. you are also going to need a solid education for most things that would get you there. You need to find something you want to do to become be successful.
This reads like people who are obsessed with becoming famous, yet don't know how to do anything that would warrant it.
You can be successful at anything from operating a tire store to analytical chemistry.
Figure out what you want to do first. The tallest skyscraper needs a foundation first. Luck. Invent something. Be motivated. You need to understand that there are very few self made multimillionaires (100m+). Most people inherit it or are the product of nepotism.
More than 90% of total people do not succeed in life.
We often talk about the successful people out there. How successful people get the things they wanted, how did they achieve the goal. But no one cares about the people who just live their whole life while loosing something everyday. Even though they are more than 9 times of successful people but still they don't get any acknowledgement. Honestly speaking we don't acknowledge ourselves.
I just wanted to say that we have equal life values as any other successful person out there. Losers have equal life values as successful people out there.
May seem fucked up, and I'm not doing it from a standpoint of "I'm better than you" or anything like that. I know there are a myriad of reasons as to why people end up and stay homeless. But nonetheless, it does make me feel relatively successful. I've got an alright job, I can generally afford the things I want to do in my free time, I like where I live and have a nice warm bed to sleep in every night, what I eat every day is pretty much determined only by my desires, etc. Also not addicted to drugs or alcohol, so I've got that going for me too.
I've got a girlfriend, two children who are doing well. I've got a steady job which allows me a stress free middle class lifestyle.
I own a house and will eventually have paid off my mortgage.
I am in pretty good physical shape (after being somewhat obese the past few years).
I know a little bit about a lot of things. And I know a lot about a few things.
I am not always happy, but I have everything to be grateful for. At age 15. I stopped believing I was the terrible things people called me. I said "Fuck You" to the people who get in my way (not literally just mentally). I value family. Im not that wealthy but for a 20 year old I consider my life a success. I have a job that is very stable, I have a beautiful fiancé, I drive a 91 corvette that I worked my ass off for. Nothing was handed to me. My parents supplied me with things I needed. But everything else I wanted I had to earn myself. I became successful when I stopped letting people tell me how to be successful.
22. When I realized that success is relative and people in my life look to me to look for the things in life that they don't look for. I'm their alternative, and they are mine. And my success is knowing who I am and going out to live strange stories, which I bring back to tell the people I love. It's been helluva life
I'm 25 years old and I graduated in 2011 with a BS in biomedical science. 3.8 gpa, summa cum laude, etc...I have always been a great student. I freaked out senior year and decided against medical school. I got a job in early 2012 in online marketing because of a friend, but I quit after a week for a few reasons. I was put with a coworker who was incredibly rude/nasty and didn't want to teach me. On top of that my parents were fighting constantly at this time. I felt miserable, trapped and I knew the work didn't mesh with me. Both my work life and my home life were miserable. Looking back, I should have stuck with it, but at the time I thought I would have found something else.
4 years later I'm still unemployed and live with my parents. I had a couple interviews in places I actually did want to work at, but didn't get the job each time. I see all my friends who have great jobs and I feel like such a loser. I shadowed a few careers, took the GRE, and even visited grad schools but nothing clicked. I visited a career counselor and 2 psychologists for anxiety and it didn't help. This year it hit me that nothing I have done has worked. In February, I started reaching out to friends and family and I got two interviews but again, I haven't got the job. Every day that passes by is another day where I have nothing to show for it. Thankfully one of my dad's friends gives me some work to do 1-2 days a week at his office so I have at least a reference I can use.
Joined the military after high school. Got out four years later and went to college. Got a useful degree (construction management and business). Finished college with minimal student loans (this is key). Traveled for work from the north slope of Alaska to the Mexican border. Sacrificed being home full time for the first three and a half years of my daughters life. I did not make my wife and daughter travel with me. Made enough money to pay off all debts but our house and save a good chunk of change. I quit traveling for work and started my own construction company. The first year was rough, but we made it work with savings. We have built the business over the last few years and now live fairly well. I feel successful because I control my destiny owning our own business. I can pick my kids up from school if I want, coach their teams, or take days off without asking anyone for permission. That’s my success.
I feel like every job I'm interested in is unavailable to me. You have to have experience and the only way to have gotten it, is to have previous internships. But you can only get an internship if you are a student. I missed out on that period of time. I'm not one of those people who can work any job. I need to be interested in it at some level or if its not interesting, it at least has to have minimal stress. I have a feeling I will have to go back to school. In what, I don't know but I really don't want to. I think I did well in school because there was a lot of variety throughout the day and I was able to study and do work on my own time. Jobs don't have that luxury. I have stacks upon stacks of jobs that I have applied to and no responses. It takes forever for me to even land an interview, and even getting an interview doesn't guarantee me a job. I just can't keep waiting around for opportunities, but what else am I supposed to do?
Honestly this might sound lame but college with a normal major, especially with covid that is just beyond important now. I wake up at 9 everyday sit in my home office, sleep throughout the day when I can and stop work around 4:30 and make close to 100k a year. When I was a kid I had “learning problems” which was just my adhd than college helped control that and now work is no problem. I’m 26 and have everything I ever wanted and it’s honestly because I can but 4 years of college as a business major down on my resume
I think most of us eventually come to the same conclusion. Almost every predictable problem in your personal life can be traced back to one thing: Lack of motivation. I am glad I found this subreddit, because for a long time this has been on my mind. When we have motivation, we have a meaning. We get up, and we look towards the future. Without motivation, with out a drive to try, we become very unproductive. These are a few things that have greatly improved my productivity and let me achieve my goals. I promise you, if you look follow each of these suggestions, you will be able to accomplish your goals and get motivated. One of the core things you must do is start a journal. Every week, write down major things that happened to you, changes that occurred in your life physically or mentally. Organize it. Mine has 4 parts, a personal philosophy section, a journal section, a book summary section, and a general things Ive learned section. Use this as your stone. No matter how bad or unproductive a week youve had, u can write a journal entry and come back to life. Mose recently, someone posted about having no "zero days". Make journalling your non zero day activity. Reflect on your life, and you will prevent a yourseld from spiraling into laziness.
Meditate. Take 10 minutes, right before you go to bed, to reflect on the day and what you have done. Forgive yourself for mistakes, and note things to improve in the future.
Cut off distractions. If you waste time online, use SelfControl (a free, basic, site blocker) to make browsing facebook, twitter, or (worst case scenario) even reddit. It is also available as a phone app. By cutting off distractions, you prevent ten minutes of blogging from turning into a five hour time suck.
SET GOALS and stick to them! If you have nothing to live for, than moving forwards is a challenge. EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING TO LIVE FOR! You can start with simple goals- clean the house, buy a new shirt. But you must also make long term goals. What is that dream job? write it down. write steps towards it that will make it happen. Lists can be very helpful. Try making a list of ten long term goals and ten short term goals. If possible, print a copy of this list and tape it above your bed. You want to remind yourself daily that you have purpose, and you will work to achieve your goals. Even if you accomplish none of the goals you set, by trying you automatically have turned wasted time into time spent on something that matters.
Do stuff. That may seem broad, but it serves a valuable purpose. Hang out with people you love, respect, or admire. Learn a language. Learn to program. Read a book. Lift weights. Play sports. Fly kites. Right cards for people. Play chess. Practice math. There are many productive things to do and be better off for having done them.
Be happy. When considering your goals and meaning, you may find that yes, you have hopes and goals, and yes, they are attainable, but they seem so small and irrelevant. For me, it was highschool. I was a typical Ivy League dream. I spent every moment of my first 3 years trying to reach the level of excellence that would give me the best chance of acceptance. Then, mid junoir year, I sat down and realized I had wasted my entire high school experience. I had few friends, I had been to zero parties, just so I could hand in an application with ten things on it for a random person to look at for half a minute and decide my entire remaining life for me. You see, life is small and irrelevant. We all die in the end. There are no winners or losers in life. And that is the glory of it all. Life is a game without rule or reason. We have no purpose, and in that we have infinite purpose. Life is a paradox. I can tell you the meaning of life right now. The meaning of life is happiness. Happiness is the only ends which is not also a means. Happiness is what we seek. This post is about success in that its about successfully being happy. By successfully achieving our goals we become happier. By recognizing we are only human and letting go of our expectations we become happier. By doing things for the people we love we become happier. When I was 19, I graduated with honors, I met the man who would become my husband, I got a job and I got into therapy.
The year before that I was in a relationship with a very abusive person, I failed everything I tried to do, and my lungs were damaged from illness so I had to give up on my dream of working as an opera singer. Suddenly it all clicked. Now I'm married and we live rent-free, my husband was offered a job doing what he loves in my hometown and we just had a beautiful baby boy.
Sometimes I can't believe how quickly things changed, and sometimes I think I don't deserve all this happiness and the Universe is going to show up and present me with a bill, but I wouldn't trade my life for anything. Motivation and self-discipline is fundamental to success in your life. Because remember, you have more control of the things in your life, than the things, you can't control in your life. Accept the things you can't control, and focus on the things you can control. It's all about the mindset. Once you develop a more self-disciplined mindset, you can actually achieve many things in your life. It's just a matter of self-control. The defeatist mindset is what keeps dreams, dreams. "Don't let your dreams, be dreams."-Shia LaBeouf. "Make it real."-Shark Boy. Don't let your dreams be dreams. Make them real. Whether that dream becomes a reality or not, is up to you. It's your life, it's your decisions. You're responsible for your own happiness, not anyone else. Happiness is not entitled to anyone, it's earned.
Being at the level of discipline you just described is the end point of the journey to living a disciplined life. This post is just a starting point, to give people something to stick to when they need to build from step one. For example, if someone is addicted to gambling, it would be awesome if they could just wake up and not have a gambling addiction. More often, however, they are going to have to take a break from gambling until they are confident they can gamble once in awhile without it becoming abusive. The same applies to internet addiction: improve your discipline, and slowly practice exposing yourself to past addictions until you can function normally without fear of re-addiction.
I don't believe that reddit is really a waste of time if properly managed, say if one unsubscribed from all the bullshit ones, but kept up with ones like getdisciplined, philosophy, books, working out ones or whatever community that relates to your goals in fact I'd say being a part of a community with related goals super charges you with information and motivation.
I used to be a shut-in for example who did all of the things that you talk about like being an obsessive reader/learner, but I was never apart of community, and I developed a delusional view of the world since I was the speaker, and the listener in the conversation - reddit help ground me and my ideas, and made me a much better person(which I'm still improving upon), imo.
We often think of happiness as conditional on something, "if we achieve this goal, if this happens, then we become happy". Happiness is not something to seek, find, pursue. Rather it is a choice we can make, right now. We can choose to think optimistically about things. In this instant, we can grateful for the things we have. We can choose to make ourselves better people every day and enjoy the process of getting to where we want. Happiness isn't a destination, it's a journey that we can choose to enjoy every moment of.
Happy private life. I don't place too much emphasis on my job as it defines me. A happy private life, to me, is an awesome SO, great family and friends - basically something to be excited to come home to. Having awesome coworkers, while good, isn't nearly as appealing to having awesome people that are truly close to me.
A very happy private life and only an ordinary professional life, easily. To me being surrounded by loving family and friends that I can talk to, share, and confide in, is far more important than money, fame, and legacy.
Happy private life for sure. Right now, I'd rate my professional life as below average and my private life average. I think that, if I were at least indifferent about my job, I would be happier in my private life as well.
Obviously this is a throwaway account, I'm too ashamed to put this on my normal account. I had the opportunity to go to college when I was 18. My parents agreed to scrape up the money to pay for it. I declined because I didn't want to be separated from my then boyfriend, so instead I studied to be a beautician at my local community college. He went on to work as a pensions administrator and now has all kinds of qualifications and a very nice life. We split up a year after I started community college.
Now a qualified beautician I found out just how flooded the job market was with other, more qualified beauticians. I got a job at a local electrical store. I had a couple of meaningless relationships, then got involved with a workshy, lazy guy who effectively cut me off from everybody, including my job (I quit because it was too far from my new house to get to in a reasonable time) and my family. He turned out to be a woman-beater and I got stuck with him for 5 years. Married and everything.
When I was 25 I finally got away from him and asked for a divorce. I got another crappy job, this time selling office supplies and subsequently was fired for being a terrible saleswoman. By this time I was living with my (now) new husband, and he could tell something was wrong. One spectacular nervous breakdown (not my first, I'd been ill for years and ignoring it) lead to a diagnosis of a severe form of bipolar disorder and ordered to not work because I was too ill.
Now, after a couple of years of being too ill to work, I'm now looking into going back to school, but even then I have to take it slow. I cant even get a job because I cant drive, and there is nothing nearby. It's frustrating as hell. I just feel like a total failure. I don't really expect my professional life to be all that successful in the future, anyway, and I can live with that, so long as I have enough money to live comfortably. I think having a happy private life would raise my level of contentness far higher than being successful professionally.
Sorry—I disagree with a lot of these responses. It’s more than just “being happy”. I know it sounds harsh, but I wouldn’t call someone “successful” whose happiness is subsidized by their parents or something. “Success” is when you have a nice life, but at this point you owe it all to yourself. Sure, you had a lot of nice and wonderful people help you along the way, and you had a lot of nice privileges other people might not have, but at this point you’re the one working for and enjoying your quality of life.
Having a career where you make a difference and thoroughly enjoy and being able to make ridiculous purchases like all of a sudden getting into an expensive hobby every now and then just cause you saw a video on YouTube about it.
There isn’t a a blanket statement way to be successful aside from the obvious platitudes of work hard and study immensely. In order to be a successful on a massive scale you have to be really good at something, really smart on a given subject, and in some cases you have to have a natural aptitude for things that can’t be taught (like business acumen). Going to college or a trade school is a good first step. When I think of success a person that comes to mind is Sean O'Malley. He is an extremely successful person. I would like to know how I can become successful like that. What are the things that I can do in my life to achieve that type of success? I would like to know everything that I can do in my own life to achieve that type of success, money, and fame. Well, if you want to be both, you need to examine all of your best attributes now and what skill set and interests that you have that overlap with what job skills pay the most. I have a very successful career. Done good things, got a few promotions and I’m managing a small team. I do well, but I am no where near rich.
You are gonna have to start your own company or become a VP type or a visionary director of some sort.
What you are talking about is not just work, it’s a grind. you are also going to need a solid education for most things that would get you there. You need to find something you want to do to become be successful.
This reads like people who are obsessed with becoming famous, yet don't know how to do anything that would warrant it.
You can be successful at anything from operating a tire store to analytical chemistry.
Figure out what you want to do first. The tallest skyscraper needs a foundation first. Luck. Invent something. Be motivated. You need to understand that there are very few self made multimillionaires (100m+). Most people inherit it or are the product of nepotism.
More than 90% of total people do not succeed in life.
We often talk about the successful people out there. How successful people get the things they wanted, how did they achieve the goal. But no one cares about the people who just live their whole life while loosing something everyday. Even though they are more than 9 times of successful people but still they don't get any acknowledgement. Honestly speaking we don't acknowledge ourselves.
I just wanted to say that we have equal life values as any other successful person out there. Losers have equal life values as successful people out there.
May seem fucked up, and I'm not doing it from a standpoint of "I'm better than you" or anything like that. I know there are a myriad of reasons as to why people end up and stay homeless. But nonetheless, it does make me feel relatively successful. I've got an alright job, I can generally afford the things I want to do in my free time, I like where I live and have a nice warm bed to sleep in every night, what I eat every day is pretty much determined only by my desires, etc. Also not addicted to drugs or alcohol, so I've got that going for me too.
I've got a girlfriend, two children who are doing well. I've got a steady job which allows me a stress free middle class lifestyle.
I own a house and will eventually have paid off my mortgage.
I am in pretty good physical shape (after being somewhat obese the past few years).
I know a little bit about a lot of things. And I know a lot about a few things.
I am not always happy, but I have everything to be grateful for. At age 15. I stopped believing I was the terrible things people called me. I said "Fuck You" to the people who get in my way (not literally just mentally). I value family. Im not that wealthy but for a 20 year old I consider my life a success. I have a job that is very stable, I have a beautiful fiancé, I drive a 91 corvette that I worked my ass off for. Nothing was handed to me. My parents supplied me with things I needed. But everything else I wanted I had to earn myself. I became successful when I stopped letting people tell me how to be successful.
22. When I realized that success is relative and people in my life look to me to look for the things in life that they don't look for. I'm their alternative, and they are mine. And my success is knowing who I am and going out to live strange stories, which I bring back to tell the people I love. It's been helluva life
I'm 25 years old and I graduated in 2011 with a BS in biomedical science. 3.8 gpa, summa cum laude, etc...I have always been a great student. I freaked out senior year and decided against medical school. I got a job in early 2012 in online marketing because of a friend, but I quit after a week for a few reasons. I was put with a coworker who was incredibly rude/nasty and didn't want to teach me. On top of that my parents were fighting constantly at this time. I felt miserable, trapped and I knew the work didn't mesh with me. Both my work life and my home life were miserable. Looking back, I should have stuck with it, but at the time I thought I would have found something else.
4 years later I'm still unemployed and live with my parents. I had a couple interviews in places I actually did want to work at, but didn't get the job each time. I see all my friends who have great jobs and I feel like such a loser. I shadowed a few careers, took the GRE, and even visited grad schools but nothing clicked. I visited a career counselor and 2 psychologists for anxiety and it didn't help. This year it hit me that nothing I have done has worked. In February, I started reaching out to friends and family and I got two interviews but again, I haven't got the job. Every day that passes by is another day where I have nothing to show for it. Thankfully one of my dad's friends gives me some work to do 1-2 days a week at his office so I have at least a reference I can use.
Joined the military after high school. Got out four years later and went to college. Got a useful degree (construction management and business). Finished college with minimal student loans (this is key). Traveled for work from the north slope of Alaska to the Mexican border. Sacrificed being home full time for the first three and a half years of my daughters life. I did not make my wife and daughter travel with me. Made enough money to pay off all debts but our house and save a good chunk of change. I quit traveling for work and started my own construction company. The first year was rough, but we made it work with savings. We have built the business over the last few years and now live fairly well. I feel successful because I control my destiny owning our own business. I can pick my kids up from school if I want, coach their teams, or take days off without asking anyone for permission. That’s my success.
I feel like every job I'm interested in is unavailable to me. You have to have experience and the only way to have gotten it, is to have previous internships. But you can only get an internship if you are a student. I missed out on that period of time. I'm not one of those people who can work any job. I need to be interested in it at some level or if its not interesting, it at least has to have minimal stress. I have a feeling I will have to go back to school. In what, I don't know but I really don't want to. I think I did well in school because there was a lot of variety throughout the day and I was able to study and do work on my own time. Jobs don't have that luxury. I have stacks upon stacks of jobs that I have applied to and no responses. It takes forever for me to even land an interview, and even getting an interview doesn't guarantee me a job. I just can't keep waiting around for opportunities, but what else am I supposed to do?
Honestly this might sound lame but college with a normal major, especially with covid that is just beyond important now. I wake up at 9 everyday sit in my home office, sleep throughout the day when I can and stop work around 4:30 and make close to 100k a year. When I was a kid I had “learning problems” which was just my adhd than college helped control that and now work is no problem. I’m 26 and have everything I ever wanted and it’s honestly because I can but 4 years of college as a business major down on my resume
I think most of us eventually come to the same conclusion. Almost every predictable problem in your personal life can be traced back to one thing: Lack of motivation. I am glad I found this subreddit, because for a long time this has been on my mind. When we have motivation, we have a meaning. We get up, and we look towards the future. Without motivation, with out a drive to try, we become very unproductive. These are a few things that have greatly improved my productivity and let me achieve my goals. I promise you, if you look follow each of these suggestions, you will be able to accomplish your goals and get motivated. One of the core things you must do is start a journal. Every week, write down major things that happened to you, changes that occurred in your life physically or mentally. Organize it. Mine has 4 parts, a personal philosophy section, a journal section, a book summary section, and a general things Ive learned section. Use this as your stone. No matter how bad or unproductive a week youve had, u can write a journal entry and come back to life. Mose recently, someone posted about having no "zero days". Make journalling your non zero day activity. Reflect on your life, and you will prevent a yourseld from spiraling into laziness.
Meditate. Take 10 minutes, right before you go to bed, to reflect on the day and what you have done. Forgive yourself for mistakes, and note things to improve in the future.
Cut off distractions. If you waste time online, use SelfControl (a free, basic, site blocker) to make browsing facebook, twitter, or (worst case scenario) even reddit. It is also available as a phone app. By cutting off distractions, you prevent ten minutes of blogging from turning into a five hour time suck.
SET GOALS and stick to them! If you have nothing to live for, than moving forwards is a challenge. EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING TO LIVE FOR! You can start with simple goals- clean the house, buy a new shirt. But you must also make long term goals. What is that dream job? write it down. write steps towards it that will make it happen. Lists can be very helpful. Try making a list of ten long term goals and ten short term goals. If possible, print a copy of this list and tape it above your bed. You want to remind yourself daily that you have purpose, and you will work to achieve your goals. Even if you accomplish none of the goals you set, by trying you automatically have turned wasted time into time spent on something that matters.
Do stuff. That may seem broad, but it serves a valuable purpose. Hang out with people you love, respect, or admire. Learn a language. Learn to program. Read a book. Lift weights. Play sports. Fly kites. Right cards for people. Play chess. Practice math. There are many productive things to do and be better off for having done them.
Be happy. When considering your goals and meaning, you may find that yes, you have hopes and goals, and yes, they are attainable, but they seem so small and irrelevant. For me, it was highschool. I was a typical Ivy League dream. I spent every moment of my first 3 years trying to reach the level of excellence that would give me the best chance of acceptance. Then, mid junoir year, I sat down and realized I had wasted my entire high school experience. I had few friends, I had been to zero parties, just so I could hand in an application with ten things on it for a random person to look at for half a minute and decide my entire remaining life for me. You see, life is small and irrelevant. We all die in the end. There are no winners or losers in life. And that is the glory of it all. Life is a game without rule or reason. We have no purpose, and in that we have infinite purpose. Life is a paradox. I can tell you the meaning of life right now. The meaning of life is happiness. Happiness is the only ends which is not also a means. Happiness is what we seek. This post is about success in that its about successfully being happy. By successfully achieving our goals we become happier. By recognizing we are only human and letting go of our expectations we become happier. By doing things for the people we love we become happier. When I was 19, I graduated with honors, I met the man who would become my husband, I got a job and I got into therapy.
The year before that I was in a relationship with a very abusive person, I failed everything I tried to do, and my lungs were damaged from illness so I had to give up on my dream of working as an opera singer. Suddenly it all clicked. Now I'm married and we live rent-free, my husband was offered a job doing what he loves in my hometown and we just had a beautiful baby boy.
Sometimes I can't believe how quickly things changed, and sometimes I think I don't deserve all this happiness and the Universe is going to show up and present me with a bill, but I wouldn't trade my life for anything. Motivation and self-discipline is fundamental to success in your life. Because remember, you have more control of the things in your life, than the things, you can't control in your life. Accept the things you can't control, and focus on the things you can control. It's all about the mindset. Once you develop a more self-disciplined mindset, you can actually achieve many things in your life. It's just a matter of self-control. The defeatist mindset is what keeps dreams, dreams. "Don't let your dreams, be dreams."-Shia LaBeouf. "Make it real."-Shark Boy. Don't let your dreams be dreams. Make them real. Whether that dream becomes a reality or not, is up to you. It's your life, it's your decisions. You're responsible for your own happiness, not anyone else. Happiness is not entitled to anyone, it's earned.
Being at the level of discipline you just described is the end point of the journey to living a disciplined life. This post is just a starting point, to give people something to stick to when they need to build from step one. For example, if someone is addicted to gambling, it would be awesome if they could just wake up and not have a gambling addiction. More often, however, they are going to have to take a break from gambling until they are confident they can gamble once in awhile without it becoming abusive. The same applies to internet addiction: improve your discipline, and slowly practice exposing yourself to past addictions until you can function normally without fear of re-addiction.
I don't believe that reddit is really a waste of time if properly managed, say if one unsubscribed from all the bullshit ones, but kept up with ones like getdisciplined, philosophy, books, working out ones or whatever community that relates to your goals in fact I'd say being a part of a community with related goals super charges you with information and motivation.
I used to be a shut-in for example who did all of the things that you talk about like being an obsessive reader/learner, but I was never apart of community, and I developed a delusional view of the world since I was the speaker, and the listener in the conversation - reddit help ground me and my ideas, and made me a much better person(which I'm still improving upon), imo.
We often think of happiness as conditional on something, "if we achieve this goal, if this happens, then we become happy". Happiness is not something to seek, find, pursue. Rather it is a choice we can make, right now. We can choose to think optimistically about things. In this instant, we can grateful for the things we have. We can choose to make ourselves better people every day and enjoy the process of getting to where we want. Happiness isn't a destination, it's a journey that we can choose to enjoy every moment of.
Happy private life. I don't place too much emphasis on my job as it defines me. A happy private life, to me, is an awesome SO, great family and friends - basically something to be excited to come home to. Having awesome coworkers, while good, isn't nearly as appealing to having awesome people that are truly close to me.
A very happy private life and only an ordinary professional life, easily. To me being surrounded by loving family and friends that I can talk to, share, and confide in, is far more important than money, fame, and legacy.
Happy private life for sure. Right now, I'd rate my professional life as below average and my private life average. I think that, if I were at least indifferent about my job, I would be happier in my private life as well.
Obviously this is a throwaway account, I'm too ashamed to put this on my normal account. I had the opportunity to go to college when I was 18. My parents agreed to scrape up the money to pay for it. I declined because I didn't want to be separated from my then boyfriend, so instead I studied to be a beautician at my local community college. He went on to work as a pensions administrator and now has all kinds of qualifications and a very nice life. We split up a year after I started community college.
Now a qualified beautician I found out just how flooded the job market was with other, more qualified beauticians. I got a job at a local electrical store. I had a couple of meaningless relationships, then got involved with a workshy, lazy guy who effectively cut me off from everybody, including my job (I quit because it was too far from my new house to get to in a reasonable time) and my family. He turned out to be a woman-beater and I got stuck with him for 5 years. Married and everything.
When I was 25 I finally got away from him and asked for a divorce. I got another crappy job, this time selling office supplies and subsequently was fired for being a terrible saleswoman. By this time I was living with my (now) new husband, and he could tell something was wrong. One spectacular nervous breakdown (not my first, I'd been ill for years and ignoring it) lead to a diagnosis of a severe form of bipolar disorder and ordered to not work because I was too ill.
Now, after a couple of years of being too ill to work, I'm now looking into going back to school, but even then I have to take it slow. I cant even get a job because I cant drive, and there is nothing nearby. It's frustrating as hell. I just feel like a total failure. I don't really expect my professional life to be all that successful in the future, anyway, and I can live with that, so long as I have enough money to live comfortably. I think having a happy private life would raise my level of contentness far higher than being successful professionally.
Sorry—I disagree with a lot of these responses. It’s more than just “being happy”. I know it sounds harsh, but I wouldn’t call someone “successful” whose happiness is subsidized by their parents or something. “Success” is when you have a nice life, but at this point you owe it all to yourself. Sure, you had a lot of nice and wonderful people help you along the way, and you had a lot of nice privileges other people might not have, but at this point you’re the one working for and enjoying your quality of life.
Having a career where you make a difference and thoroughly enjoy and being able to make ridiculous purchases like all of a sudden getting into an expensive hobby every now and then just cause you saw a video on YouTube about it.
