i don't even have the confidence to speak with a old classmate from school on the phone
there's a women on my facebook friends list, she is an old classmate from primary school long ago, in the mid 80s sometime, ive chatted with her very briefly in messenger on facebook...but i'm not very good at socializing with women, don't have the best social skills and self confidence and in the past i've frightened girls off by being too eager, wanting to rush things and struggling for things to talk about.....but this girl is an old classmate from long ago who had an affection for me......recently she expressed on facebook she would like to phone me and hear my voice again after so long? i expressed happiness about that to her, eagerness and gave her my landline and mobile phone numbers..
she just called me before on my two phones, but i was too afraid to answer the phone?? i know, i feel quite ridiculous about it.....but i just got gripped by self doubt as i often do and thought what could i talk to her about?
she doesn't really know the problems i've had a lot of my adulthood, or know too much about the psychological problems i've had and all the adversity's i've had....so i would feel not good enough because i haven't got anything exciting to talk about or that might keep her interest?? plus i think she lives in a house now and works and i live in a council flat and lived on benefits all my adulthood?
so i just feel embarrassed about all that and wonder how i could manage to hold a conversation when i'm very aware of my situation?? can anyone advise??
my elderly mother just said to see her as a friend on facebook, nothing more and don't put so much on it or be too eager and desperate? but when i interact with women those needy feelings tend to show at times, even though i fight to hide them, because i know it's not a good thing... this old classmate, she is an attractive pale redhead, so i feel a bit intimidated by speaking to her on the phone?
help?? also, what reason could i give her as to why i missed her phonecall?? i really regret not answering.
she just called me before on my two phones, but i was too afraid to answer the phone?? i know, i feel quite ridiculous about it.....but i just got gripped by self doubt as i often do and thought what could i talk to her about?
she doesn't really know the problems i've had a lot of my adulthood, or know too much about the psychological problems i've had and all the adversity's i've had....so i would feel not good enough because i haven't got anything exciting to talk about or that might keep her interest?? plus i think she lives in a house now and works and i live in a council flat and lived on benefits all my adulthood?
so i just feel embarrassed about all that and wonder how i could manage to hold a conversation when i'm very aware of my situation?? can anyone advise??
my elderly mother just said to see her as a friend on facebook, nothing more and don't put so much on it or be too eager and desperate? but when i interact with women those needy feelings tend to show at times, even though i fight to hide them, because i know it's not a good thing... this old classmate, she is an attractive pale redhead, so i feel a bit intimidated by speaking to her on the phone?
help?? also, what reason could i give her as to why i missed her phonecall?? i really regret not answering.
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