A Question For People Who Have Social Anxiety...
What are you scared of happening in social situations?
26-30, M
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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Embarrassing myself
1) Misjudging the mood or my position in a social setting - being too familiar, saying inappropriate things, fearing I might appear as flirting when I am in fact not
2) Being too emotional for apparently no good reason, tearing up from things that normally don't trigger such reaction in people and drawing attention of others who would stare wondering what's wrong with me
3) Just being generally socially awkward, not knowing what to do or say, just standing somewhere at the side unable to join others and others wondering what am I even doing there
4) Having an acute bout of inferiority complex triggering anxiety attack while being among people who in my eyes accomplished a lot while in the moment I am in my eyes nobody and deeply ashamed of my life and myself
5) Being perceived as stupid by being clumsy with basic stuff other people never had a problem with or learned at much younger age than I did, people rolling their eyes and telling me I should have known how to do this and that a long time ago and where I've been all that time.
1) Misjudging the mood or my position in a social setting - being too familiar, saying inappropriate things, fearing I might appear as flirting when I am in fact not
2) Being too emotional for apparently no good reason, tearing up from things that normally don't trigger such reaction in people and drawing attention of others who would stare wondering what's wrong with me
3) Just being generally socially awkward, not knowing what to do or say, just standing somewhere at the side unable to join others and others wondering what am I even doing there
4) Having an acute bout of inferiority complex triggering anxiety attack while being among people who in my eyes accomplished a lot while in the moment I am in my eyes nobody and deeply ashamed of my life and myself
5) Being perceived as stupid by being clumsy with basic stuff other people never had a problem with or learned at much younger age than I did, people rolling their eyes and telling me I should have known how to do this and that a long time ago and where I've been all that time.
Misanthropic · 26-30, M
@CrazyMusicLover very insightful, some of that I can relate to as I used to feel that way (1,3,4,5) a lot of the time.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Misanthropic What did you do with 4? I mean what was your reaction and how did you deal with the situation?
Misanthropic · 26-30, M
@CrazyMusicLover At the time I handled it poorly, I just didn't reveal much about myself or what was going on in my life. If asked a question that made me feel inferior I would lie or bend the truth. I got over that eventually when I realised I don't value people based on their achievements but who they are when that sunk in I found it easier to be honest and not care as much about my standing.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Misanthropic That doesn't sound too bad. I have to run away asap. I just can't bear to be in such setting.
Misanthropic · 26-30, M
@CrazyMusicLover I never run away, I feel as others will perceive that as weak and make them more likely to target me
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Misanthropic Well, I know it would be far worse if I stayed. That way they don't even need to know why I left.
Misanthropic · 26-30, M
@CrazyMusicLover If you mean you have walked away from those situations I have too in some cases. If someone looked down upon me in a social situation now I'd most likely walk away. The anxiety just doesn't come with it anymore maybe because my whole philosophy on life changed or maybe because I got used to it not sure. No person is worth more than another because they are more successful in my books.