I Have Social Anxiety

And I wish I had people who I could relate to. Instead of people who think because I'm quiet and reserved that I'm mean, intimidating, or upset in some form or fashion.

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FaeLuna · 31-35, F

I was scolded heavily as a young child for talking out of place, so that left me being very quiet and not knowing when to speak up, and being afraid to do so. So everyone just assumed I was shy or timid, and later just unfriendly and not social.

It wasn't until way later in life that I realized just how bad the social anxiety was. I'm doing better thanks to understanding friends, but it's still a daily struggle, so I know exactly the feeling.

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Viper · M

@FaeLuna That sounds like a great skill 😏 Just wish I like writing more now lol

But I've been told when I have I've come up with very realistic things as well, weather it was a paper I had to write. Or coming up with a realistic strategy on how to handle people or problems and how they'll react to such things.

FaeLuna · 31-35, F

@Viper It seems our curse keeps us grounded in reality better than the rest of them!

Viper · M

@FaeLuna Yes very much so! Though reality is sometimes depressing, at least for me. And sometimes I need to jump out of reality to recharge.

Or other times, just need to let loose and go all in for something, even those I know how unlikely it is.

grayhalo · 46-50, M

I know how you feel. I don't know if anyone ever thought I was mean, but I certainly grew up as the quiet one. It was because I always had the sense that I did not belong in some way. I'd like to say that I have grown out of it, but when I am social it's because I've grown tired of feeling alone. I have to force myself to be social. It's taken a lot of work. Although I still feel out of place.

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grayhalo · 46-50, M

@Slink I know that feeling. My specific problem is that I tend to get overly detailed. Especially if it's a topic I'm interested in.

Slink · 31-35, F

@grayhalo
Same, and people find that to be strange if it's not one of their personal interest.

grayhalo · 46-50, M

@Slink Taking a shot in the dark here. There is a part of your brain that thinks what you believe is interesting should be interesting to everyone. And it doesn't understand why other people don't find it interesting. Happens to me every now and then.

SW-User

I do also.

SW-User

Same. My quietness has been mistaken for meanness, unfriendliness, and even arrogance. It's none of those things! I just find it difficult to talk to people. 😥

Slink · 31-35, F

@SW-User
Exactly. I've been told before that I think I'm better than other people. I don't believe that. If anything, I feel inadequate.

Effloresce · 26-30, F

I understand

TexChik · F

They make a pill for that ! Some of my associates have issues with that ... the meds help

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Slink · 31-35, F

@TexChik
You can get professional help without medicine. I know because I've spoken to medical professionals before I've turned to the internet to vent.

TexChik · F

@Slink whatever

Slink · 31-35, F

@TexChik
"Whatever",but I understood you were trying to give some advice. I'm just telling you I've already tried it. Sorry, but I understand that people don't know my story. Maybe it would help them if they were aware.

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