I Have Social Anxiety

I've just moved away for uni and am incredibly struggling with adapting to the situation whether it's actually in lectures or even in the flat. I stay in my room, maybe say a hi once a day and tend to only use the kitchen when I know everyone has went out. It's rather unsettling attempting to find comfort in the place your gonna call home for the next 3 years when you're rather inept to social cues

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

Kitakat00 · 36-40, F

Just keep calm and eventually you'll make friends. Adjusting will take some time and if you want to talk to people you're gong to have to realize that sometimes you will succeed and sometimes you will embarrass yourself. But you shake it off and try again. I know that's hard to do but just try being nice to others. Eventually you'll get noticed for you.

InsanityPursuit · 26-30, F

Thank you, it's one of the ways I've been trying to take a step forward to it, I know attempting to be someone your not will never work out in the long run. It's better to at least actually have people who like you for you than rather for who they think you are. I've made that mistake in the past and genuinely don't want to do again.

Kitakat00 · 36-40, F

The nice thing about university is you get to start over in a sense. You get to see who you are and what you really like. It's an adventure. At least, that's how I thought of it. There's more diversity there with the people and culture. It's tough, don't get me wrong, but I'm sure you can make it. You sound like you're pretty nice and intelligent. It'll come through even clearer in person. Good luck in your studies. What's your major btw?

InsanityPursuit · 26-30, F

@Kitakat00: I've had a number of people mention that, how it's a way to re-invent yourself. I agree with you there about it being an adventure, the most controversial problem I have about this, is how I love being alone, I love having adventures without having others to dictate your next move, but the feeling of loneliness is dreadful. Thank you by the way, I'm currently studying Criminology but I'm transferring to Psychology hopefully.

Kitakat00 · 36-40, F

Psychology. I wanted to study that but instead went into human services. You picked a great major