Great video. Thanks for sharing. I can relate deeply to a lot of what he is saying. He covered so many topics and thoughts that run really deep for me. I could probably go on and on...
Thing is, I really like that guy! I wish I could chat with him in person. He's funny! He has a lot of similar view points as me too. So, I can't help but feel bad that he thinks others view him so badly. I imagine many people genuinely like him.
Also... I really like you! Honestly! I can relate really deeply to a lot of what you wrote. I have struggled so bad with sa in my life, so I totally get where you are coming from and how you feel. You are a wonderful person and I'm sure many people genuinely like you just because you are fun to be around and you are interesting and caring!
For me, I've come light years from where I was before. I still struggle, and in certain environments I just want to shrivel up and die. What has helped me immensely was both self help and therapy. I read some great books on anxiety and also read a really great book on how to raise my self esteem. The therapy helped me realize that my opinion of myself is all that matters and that others opinion of me is more about them than it is about me. Most people judge others constantly because they feel so badly about themselves that its the only way they can cope. If they want to look down on me because I am less than perfect, then that says more about them than it does about me. All of this is easier said than done though. ...which is why I still struggle. But honestly, its very possible to get better at coping with sa. If I can do it, anyone can, because I was very far gone with this at one point in time.
Thing is, I really like that guy! I wish I could chat with him in person. He's funny! He has a lot of similar view points as me too. So, I can't help but feel bad that he thinks others view him so badly. I imagine many people genuinely like him.
Also... I really like you! Honestly! I can relate really deeply to a lot of what you wrote. I have struggled so bad with sa in my life, so I totally get where you are coming from and how you feel. You are a wonderful person and I'm sure many people genuinely like you just because you are fun to be around and you are interesting and caring!
For me, I've come light years from where I was before. I still struggle, and in certain environments I just want to shrivel up and die. What has helped me immensely was both self help and therapy. I read some great books on anxiety and also read a really great book on how to raise my self esteem. The therapy helped me realize that my opinion of myself is all that matters and that others opinion of me is more about them than it is about me. Most people judge others constantly because they feel so badly about themselves that its the only way they can cope. If they want to look down on me because I am less than perfect, then that says more about them than it does about me. All of this is easier said than done though. ...which is why I still struggle. But honestly, its very possible to get better at coping with sa. If I can do it, anyone can, because I was very far gone with this at one point in time.
@MrLion I wouldnt have guessed thaf you have sa. Youre very charismatic!
Im not aure how you were in the past but you are very easy to talk to.
Id like to get books. But then the people around me might see them and ask what its about but i dont want people ro know so i just want to go to therapy. But its a process.
Thanks for sharing and being so honest!
Im not aure how you were in the past but you are very easy to talk to.
Id like to get books. But then the people around me might see them and ask what its about but i dont want people ro know so i just want to go to therapy. But its a process.
Thanks for sharing and being so honest!
FreeOrchid · 36-40, F
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Many hugs. I feel the same. Exactly same. Word to word. Even the "my siblings said if we weren't family we wouldn't talk to you". Das what my mother tells me.
Just keep going on. Not everything is going to be in your comfortable zone. But it will give you strength to work outside of this zone every single day. When you'll hit the pillow at night you will say "I survived again!" and when you wake up you will tell yourself "I am stronger than yesterday!" and you will love yourself for your flaws because they are beautiful and unique and das cute. And you will keep tearing your way through life as passionately as you can and do the things you love.
Just keep going on. Not everything is going to be in your comfortable zone. But it will give you strength to work outside of this zone every single day. When you'll hit the pillow at night you will say "I survived again!" and when you wake up you will tell yourself "I am stronger than yesterday!" and you will love yourself for your flaws because they are beautiful and unique and das cute. And you will keep tearing your way through life as passionately as you can and do the things you love.
St0ut · 51-55, M
While I think everyone has some social anoexty it’s how you deal with it. Some withdraw. And that can work but it can be unhealthy. Some disavow it and use it as an excuse to be antisocial in distructive ways.
At the end of the day. Those that love you will accept you.
Those that’s don’t. It really doesn’t matter what they think.
At the end of the day. Those that love you will accept you.
Those that’s don’t. It really doesn’t matter what they think.
SecondHomeByTheSea · 51-55, M
First off, I only read this because you read one of my stories, so I thought it would be polite to take some interest. No agenda here. I am medicated for SA and let me tell you, even at 46, people are fucking evil. They can smell it, and they prey off it like wild dogs. I can't even sit in a small room with 3 or 4 people. Because every single person is an every day normal joe and I feel like the unfit one. And then here's the real killer: I try to make friend and be nice to people, only to have them turn on me and become arrogant idiots. So at least you haven't reached my attitude toward people. I hate them all.
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