I Have Social Anxiety

@EnglishSonnet thanks 👍 sometimes simple advice is the best i think. especially as it seems the original poster has a problem remembering stuff when anxious

@newbieHi there, well thanks for the advice, I think sometimes though for someone who has anxiety they realize how easy it is, what they have to do, and rehearse it is a good idea, but when it comes down to it, your irrational thoughts are creeping in your head, your body then reacts, this can be any thing such as stuttering on words, going red, or experiencing a nervous twitch, to an after effect of feeling totally drained, it can feel awful. Its a bit like telling an insomniac all you have to do is close your eyes and go to sleep, its not always that easy

@Wishfulsoul not true, i think my advice was practical, simple and easy to carry out! at worst you can just read from a post-it note. after a few times it will be easier. not the same as telling an insomniac to just go to sleep, or a paranoid to just be fearless!

- it seems a bit like you actually like to keep yourself in your self imposed "victim" role? otherwise why argue against simple helpful advice?

@newbie I'm not arguing, your point was fair enough, I said thanks for the advice, I was just saying its not always that straight forward, preparing is a good idea, I do this quite often, but it doesn't take away the anxiety or the physical response to the anxiety, we're all different. I'll argue with you though that nobody wants to keep them self like this, do you really think its a fun experience? Victim role? Do you have anxiety?? Thanks anyway for your "simple" advice, it truly is!

@Wishfulsoul in any case not bothering to prepare for an event or introduction is pure laziness ! no wonder some people get anxiety before an exam or a meeting with other people when they haven't even bothered preparing even the most basic and from the context obvious information 😲 frankly a bit of sweaty hands and some embarrassing is a minor price to pay compared to the rest of the participants who actually put in some effort!

I am not talking about preparation I'm talking about anxiety. Your ignorant views on the subject, no wonder people don't like to talk about it. Ha a bit of sweaty hands and a bit of embarrassment, you make me laugh, so ignorant.

@Wishfulsoul all i did was give you a simple friendly advice! soon you're accepting that it might work for you, but everyone should know and be pre-occupied with how bad you feel anyway. and now mocking my advice...

ok, i give you what you want: i feel really sorry for you and your "condition" - it's so sad you have to feel horrible even when doing a simple thing like saying 3 bullet points about yourself. your life must be a living hell, and so much worse than people who really have suffered from something truly horrible!

does that make you feel better???

I'm not asking for your sympathy but your still so ignorant to anxiety. I'm not comparing anxiety to other peoples mental health/physical illnesses, I know there are a lot of people who suffer in life, its ridiculous to make a comparison.
I respected your advice, but telling somebody they're playing the victim, that is very ignorant.

why are you so insecure then? if you're as good quality as any other in the room, and why shouldn't you be?

if you feel so arrogant that I'm too stupid for you, why don't you get down from your high horse and explain???

I am not being arrogant and I never called you stupid, what high horse am I suppose to be on? Sometimes you can't always agree with people, I can respect someone's point of view but it doesn't mean I have to agree. You seem to have taken offence that I didn't think your advice would be the answer to everyone's anxiety, like I said we all have our own points of view, its about showing respect to one another and I think the way you say I want to act like a victim or belittling me, is just not nice and pretty rude, so why wouldn't I take offence?
Also I feel like these type of attitudes are not at all helpful for anyone who has anxiety/mental health I've worked with quite a few people who have severe anxiety, I wouldn't dream of telling them stop acting like a victim, there are much worse things that can happen to you, pull yourself together etc To me that's just plain ignorant and apathetic. Anyway I think we will just beg to differ on this, so there is no point me arguing with you on the matter, you have your opinion and I have mine.

@Wishfulsoul this is not about having different views. about what?

I gave you a simple advice, which i, with the best intentions, thought might fit one or two of the situations you described. I didn't claim not did i ever think my simple advice would easily solve all anxiety problems in all situations (that would indeed be very arrogant + stupid too). next you attack me for belittling your issues, and not having any clue about anxiety as a mental health problem, or whatever ... sorry i felt that was unnecessary, and frankly uncalled for! since then you have called me apathetic, plain ignorant and a whole host of very demeaning terms. maybe we disagree about what rudeness is - or what a decent way to repay well meaning kindness is?

frankly by now i'm not sure if anxiety is the biggest of your mental issues?