@Magicianzini Exactly! Same goes for men too, it's not all about looks (or money) it's about how it makes you feel to be around the person! Looks are most important for one night stands and even then personality still does a lot.

@TheHammer That's funny because they always lust over them

@IAmNothing
I have been with a few of all sizes. When I met my wife, she was a big girl. And stayed married to her for 20 years. And she never got small. She had hormonal issues. Her size never meant anything to me. Not once.

@TheHammer okay , thanks!

I'm offering to introduce Mr. Patel to someone who refers to herself as "IAMNothing" and who expresses being in despair because no one "wants her." Well, I can confirm with assurance Mr. Patel is a man, a bit overweight himself, but not obnoxiously so, who is looking for someone... a companion perhaps to share a cup a coffee, maybe a visit to his homeland on his expense account, perhaps leading to more. So, yeah... excuse me for being a dick for taking an interest in someone else without brushing off her concerns as possible "hormonal issues."

I still think she and Mr. Patel could, at the very least, become friends. Would that be so bad? Of course, it is up to her if she wants that introduction, but the offer still stands.

@GoFish It's true I was on a ton of different asthma meds when I was growing up and they made me gain loads of weight no matter how active I was. I was a very active kid

@IAmNothing i was skinny when i was a kid i was in all sorts of activities but i quit to become religious and gained a lot of weight.. i quit being overly religious but was no longer active in sports and activities so had weight struggles ever since but lately am just accepting that i'm a larger person and stop trying to be the twig i was as a kid you know? just let go of the idea and accept reality .. besides i know a number of overly large girls/women who still found love and got married so that's not even an issue you should worry about .. personality is what matters in the end .. bemoaning one's figure is not a good vibe because it's a negative concept and therefore unhappy .. some people actually like larger women even

@IAmNothing these health issues are more than a handful!!!! And may also be contributing to your negative self perception. I hope you are opening up to your doctor about how you feel about your self worth. I needed my husband to tell me to stop thinking negatively about my life before I was able to begin to stop being self deprecating. I'm still working on that. I know you feel as if you are "nothing" (username) but I hope you will begin to allow yourself to believe you are just as valueable as anyone else. I am not a size two, but I am in a committed relationship of 12 years now.

@HumanEarth Make you thin

@HumanEarth it suppresses the appetite I’m on it for my type 2 diabetes I get a discount on it because of my diabetes

@BlueVeins Yeah but I wear a size 18/2xl it's meant for people my size

@IAmNothing How many men have you asked out this year?

@IAmNothing Or even approached

@HijabaDabbaDoo Doubtful men always want a certain type but end up settling until they can get it

@IAmNothing I know men who explicitly like women of bigger sizes. But what they think of you doesn’t really matter, what matters is how you feel about yourself.

@TheHammer No, I would not. I think being shallow and racist is for stupid people.

@Nightwings ok