what do you do when there's no 'instant fix' or ' magic answer' to your difficult situation
i sometimes feel down and hopeless about this...the fact that i'm now in my late 40s, had a hard life, never found any friendships, relationships, social contacts - in my adult life, had mental disorders all my adult life.....lived alone in a 1 bedroom flat for 20 years now, with the only support my elderly mother who lives far away..
the things i cope with mentally are a personality disorder, paranoia at times, ptsd, and severe anxiety....struggle with self confidence and social skills, just talking to people.
and my main ambition at this point is to find a partner, i'm hetrosexual, so that would be a nice woman....but i'm very aware there's no easy way to find that? there's no magic answer, no one can wave a magic wand....i can't just get a girl straight away......i can't go up to some woman, tell her i like her and will she be my girlfriend? because reality doesn't work like that, i know......and that realization i find very depressing and i feel hopeless about it.
and i feel very lonely and isolated often and want an instant solution like now? but just the knowing i will have to endure this solitary existence of loneliness for an ' unknown' time until....well.....until things happen for me.....or they might not, as i'm not owed the things i want.
any help?
the things i cope with mentally are a personality disorder, paranoia at times, ptsd, and severe anxiety....struggle with self confidence and social skills, just talking to people.
and my main ambition at this point is to find a partner, i'm hetrosexual, so that would be a nice woman....but i'm very aware there's no easy way to find that? there's no magic answer, no one can wave a magic wand....i can't just get a girl straight away......i can't go up to some woman, tell her i like her and will she be my girlfriend? because reality doesn't work like that, i know......and that realization i find very depressing and i feel hopeless about it.
and i feel very lonely and isolated often and want an instant solution like now? but just the knowing i will have to endure this solitary existence of loneliness for an ' unknown' time until....well.....until things happen for me.....or they might not, as i'm not owed the things i want.
any help?
46-50, M
