Making new friends is hard in 2024

I have no friends at all. I've tried everyway you possibly can, going to activity groups, trying to start up random conversations with strangers, contact old peers that I used to be in contact with, but it always just fizzles out for whatever reason. I don't think I am that boring. I try my best to be engaged, listen and also talk but it seems like I am not important enough to maintain a connection, just a mere good conversation. Don't get me wrong I appreciate a good conversation at any time but some times I wish there was more to it then that. Am I the only one who feels this way? I just want to laugh, hang out and be myself with someone again if that is even possible today. Am I being too entitled?

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NerdyPotato ·

I'm in the same situation. I've never had a whole lot of contact, but the pandemic pretty much destroyed the little I did have. And building something new isn't working out. I am visiting all kinds of gatherings again, but no new connections are forming.

SW-User

@NerdyPotato Yes the pandemic definitely hit everyone hard. Other factors come into play as well for me but most of it is my own doing

NerdyPotato ·

@SW-User what other factors? If you don't want to specify in public you're welcome to PM me. There's a lot more for me at play as well.

HumanEarth · F

I'm the opposite, I made even more friends since 911 and then more in Pandemic.

It's my personality. I'm a fun lovely, easy going, crazy person

SW-User

@HumanEarth I would also like to think I am as well but everyone also seems more busy now. I guess as people get older, the more responsibility they start to have which is understandable. This is why I don't fault people for not wanting a friendship right now. I'm just scared because of this I missed out on my chance a long time ago.

NerdyPotato ·

@SW-User that's way too relatable.

HumanEarth · F

Look I'm also a born in April. This is me to the T

People born in April are outgoing, funny, and humorous people. They are very talkative and they know how to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. You like to keep your calm and you are usually a detailed person who knows their loyalties. Clever and knowledgeable, you know where and how to find the information you need at any time. You do not like to be bossed around and you are quite often impulsive and you do not think much before you act.

SW-User

@NerdyPotato Yes, it gets harder as you get older, people move to different stages of their life and if you did not catch them when they were more free and emotionally available, it is difficult to hop back onto the train because a person may even want to be your friend but just simply do not have the time. For this reason I never take it personally but it still doesn't curb my loneliness

SW-User

@HumanEarth I don't really believe in zodiac signs but very interesting take

NerdyPotato ·

@SW-User yeah, I can't blame anyone for not having the time in today's society either, but understanding the reason doesn't make it any easier.