Deserve more than bare minimum

I just saw this mental health post on ig and one of the slides said "stop being flattered by the bare minimum" that hurt me so much i just wanted to proof it wrong it was so right like why am i acting this way i know best i can care less and not gaf about whoever comes in my life the ones that i like i can male them stay its so much easier said than done tho
Cus it made me realize just how low my self esteem was and how much i rely on validation from random people
This has to get better cus its driving me Nutsss