What do you think is a man biggest struggle?
To me I feel like no one cares,they just pretend to care if you're rich or dying.
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I feel like it's easy to meme with this topic but at the same time there's also room for sincerity and evaluation.
In my honest opinion, I reckon you're right on the money. Particularly on the individual level, no one really cares except for perhaps family and then it's only situational at best; like if they remember a problem you have or if they hear that something has happened from somewhere. Very rarely does preemptive appraisal of the condition of a mans existence happen beyond that, with perhaps another exception for relationships and that's the big theme. I'd wager that a moderate portion of young men today aren't in relationships, myself included. Some young men, or even middle aged men may never have had a relationship. As such, they never have that intimacy, closeness, passion and dedication that one typically experiences in a good relationship. Don't get me wrong, men can have either male or female friends who care about them and maybe ask about their struggles or challenges but it feels very superficial. Oftentimes it feels more like a courtesy question rather than an actual ask with the potential to follow up with assistance. Particularly with the women in my life, I personally almost never ask them for help as the vast majority of them literally never offer any.
Men definitely have a unique existence. Not to say that women don't experience this too but it's definitely less so than men. Women often have either other women or usually men asking after them and checking up on them to make sure they are ok. If a woman has a problem, you can usually guarantee there would be several men climbing over each other to try and help her. If a man was in the same scenario, most women probably wouldn't even know and if they did, they might be anxious about helping him in fear of giving him "the wrong idea."
In saying all of this, I'd say the hardest struggle men have is loneliness. Whilst men can thrive alone and being a bachelor has been a thing for ages, there's many men out there who would happily and readily choose a loving relationship if given the choice. Men don't really tend to help other men unless it's a practical problem. Problems that stem from either an emotional place or mental place, typically need comfort; something men don't provide each other unless it's a homosexual relationship. With the dynamic between men and women being as fragile as it is in modern times, a lot of genuine men are stuck in a void where women are either too scared to trust them, too "good" for them, too busy to accommodate them, too emotionally unavailable to care for them, too damaged to build anything meaningful with them or those men just get lumped in with the men that treat women poorly. All men lose in this equation. Now this statement isn't to point the finger at women and say, "this is your problem." This is simply an acknowledgement of the changing of the times. Women will always get attention from men. Whether it's simply because men are being gentlemenly or if there's a more insidious tone, is open to interpretation. Some men rarely or never get attention from women and I think the thing that is often overlooked is that men need women as much as women need men.
That's my opinion anyway.
In my honest opinion, I reckon you're right on the money. Particularly on the individual level, no one really cares except for perhaps family and then it's only situational at best; like if they remember a problem you have or if they hear that something has happened from somewhere. Very rarely does preemptive appraisal of the condition of a mans existence happen beyond that, with perhaps another exception for relationships and that's the big theme. I'd wager that a moderate portion of young men today aren't in relationships, myself included. Some young men, or even middle aged men may never have had a relationship. As such, they never have that intimacy, closeness, passion and dedication that one typically experiences in a good relationship. Don't get me wrong, men can have either male or female friends who care about them and maybe ask about their struggles or challenges but it feels very superficial. Oftentimes it feels more like a courtesy question rather than an actual ask with the potential to follow up with assistance. Particularly with the women in my life, I personally almost never ask them for help as the vast majority of them literally never offer any.
Men definitely have a unique existence. Not to say that women don't experience this too but it's definitely less so than men. Women often have either other women or usually men asking after them and checking up on them to make sure they are ok. If a woman has a problem, you can usually guarantee there would be several men climbing over each other to try and help her. If a man was in the same scenario, most women probably wouldn't even know and if they did, they might be anxious about helping him in fear of giving him "the wrong idea."
In saying all of this, I'd say the hardest struggle men have is loneliness. Whilst men can thrive alone and being a bachelor has been a thing for ages, there's many men out there who would happily and readily choose a loving relationship if given the choice. Men don't really tend to help other men unless it's a practical problem. Problems that stem from either an emotional place or mental place, typically need comfort; something men don't provide each other unless it's a homosexual relationship. With the dynamic between men and women being as fragile as it is in modern times, a lot of genuine men are stuck in a void where women are either too scared to trust them, too "good" for them, too busy to accommodate them, too emotionally unavailable to care for them, too damaged to build anything meaningful with them or those men just get lumped in with the men that treat women poorly. All men lose in this equation. Now this statement isn't to point the finger at women and say, "this is your problem." This is simply an acknowledgement of the changing of the times. Women will always get attention from men. Whether it's simply because men are being gentlemenly or if there's a more insidious tone, is open to interpretation. Some men rarely or never get attention from women and I think the thing that is often overlooked is that men need women as much as women need men.
That's my opinion anyway.
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Roundandroundwego · 61-69
@Kodel the cities certainly aren't pedestrian friendly. Culture is downstream of infrastructure.
Kodel · 26-30, M
@Roundandroundwego I'm not quite sure what to make of that. As in culture is a byproduct of infrastructure? Culture is the result of infrastructure? Culture is only a modern reflection of images of a bygone past?
There's a lot of ways to interpret that sentence. Fundamentally, all my interpretations at the very least to agree that it's influential, however it's not necessarily an accurate model. Culture is more influenced by the moment as it doesn't necessarily develop under the umbrella of the system. I suppose one could argue that the system does influence culture regardless of the nature, however, what flaws are found in this system could just as easily be friendlier as they could be more dangerous than ones in another system.
There's a lot of ways to interpret that sentence. Fundamentally, all my interpretations at the very least to agree that it's influential, however it's not necessarily an accurate model. Culture is more influenced by the moment as it doesn't necessarily develop under the umbrella of the system. I suppose one could argue that the system does influence culture regardless of the nature, however, what flaws are found in this system could just as easily be friendlier as they could be more dangerous than ones in another system.
Roundandroundwego · 61-69
@Kodel our culture flows from the streets and buildings and internet sites, even as we make them ourselves. We also make and live inside institutions like marriage and school. We've become too unsophisticated to even participate in the infrastructure building process. We are the product
FoolishLuna · 56-60, F
Roundandroundwego · 61-69
To be able to Truly Live, ends in grave successfully/unsuccessfully.
SarithBorn · 18-21, M
getting the balance right between keen and not too keen 🤣
bamstormer · 41-45, M
Having no sense.