I keep asking myself the same question over and over again...

Why wasn't I good enough for her. I have been thinking about my mom lately and I just do not understand for the life of me how you can be great to three of your kids and two single out and treat them differently. I thought maybe when my little sister and I became adults things will be different. Maybe when we have children and she is a grandmother things will be different but guess what? They aren't. I have called her and called her and no return calls, no messages, no nothing. The only time she paid us any attention was when we flew up there to visit her. When do you cut your losses? Mind you, this is all complicated by the fact that she has lung cancer and end-stage COPD. I am so so tired of trying and I know my sister feels the same way. My dad already passed away in 2016 so when she is gone we have no parents. I guess I am just sad because I just cannot answer the question of why I wasn't good enough for her.

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GLITTER · 36-40, F

I think it’s time to let it go and just let time do it’s thing. It sounds like you’re not going to get any answers and is there really any point if she’s end of life. Don’t do things you will regret later, you’re only ever responsible for your actions

proudoma4 · 46-50, F

@GLITTER I am really trying hard to let go. I have no intentions of being hurtful or anything because that is not in my nature but I would be lying if I didn't say it hurts, and she is the same to my children. My children let go a long time ago, it was easy for them. I am not sure why it is not so easy for me. Thanks for listening.

PoetryNEmotion · F

It has nothing to do with your worth. It is all on her. Sometimes family is not loving nor kind. You have to get over this and make peace with the whole situation. You don't have to like it or love her even. Just deal with it. Consider not trying. Consider loving yourself for you.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I'm sure it wasnt you, my father is a narcissist and treats all three of his kids differently. I'm the black sheep.

proudoma4 · 46-50, F

@Starcrossed I was called the black sheep too. So sorry 😔

southerngent · M

So sorry to see this. I’m the same way with my dad. Nothing was ever good enough. And that started a cycle of me trying to please him even more. Still deal with that at times.

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