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Will someone please tell me the secrets to raising a boy!?

I had four girls, my house stayed clean it was always peaceful and never once did I feel overwhelmed. Welp lucky me child five was a boy and omg I am pulling my hair out. He's almost two and acts like hes ten and thinks he can do anything he wants. He destroys my house and I feel like he like to get under my skin for example He Rips all the pots out from the cabinets then yells annoying and runs away. Now it's hard not to laugh but I'm really getting exhausted and don't know how to stop his destruction. Please give any useful advice
First, every kid is different, regardless of sex. I'm sure you know that with 5 in your brood!

Boys get a LOT of their cues on how to act and what to respect from...drumroll....their father. So, while it's not a 100% certain rule, it's generally true that boys will emulate their dad's values and behavior.

Meaning, how does your husband treat you, your house, your daughters? Should be a lot of insight by looking at that vector in your family and then applying it to your son's values and actions.

And if you do not have a father in the home, what male is your son seeing as a role model...a friend, boyfriend, your father, your brother?
@O-sure: I can definitely see that. I am the good loving, devoted mom, wife who runs everything and takes care of everyone. My husband is the not so social quiet kind of go with the flow guy. He makes no rules or tells anyone what to do because he says he will be the bad parent. My daughters were raised with me alone so they only had one parent to watch and are beyond the best kids ever. So I'm working on the husband and his ways I think that putting him in my shoes is a start
@DidIHurtYourFeelings: I agree. But you should sit down and have a chat with him sometime and spell things out. It's hard to be consistent but nothing will work better.
@O-sure: I will definitely take your advice thank you so much
MsAmazon · 46-50, F
Know somewhat where you're coming from. I had two girls, then when I remarried I obtained a step son age 6. Had no clue what to do with him. My house stayed a schambles, he ate me out of house and home as he got older, etc lol. Boys are a while different breed. Sounds like he's figured out how to get a ride out of you, and is doing it for attention. Plus, your probably experiencing the terrible twos, and like I said boys are a different breed, so expect total opposite of your girls at that age.
Just my opinion of course
Lol I give you credit I can't deal with no step kids
MsAmazon · 46-50, F
@DidIHurtYourFeelings: lol I loved my step babies. Raised them pretty much until their dad and I divorced.
SW-User
well, don't lose hope,in just sixteen years, he'll be moving out..
They never leave! My oldest is turning 19 she's still home, cause I won't let her go haha
Crushed sedatives & pudding. You're welcome.
Haha so evil
Cinnamon · 31-35, F
Yikes. He sounds like a typical man :-/ Hope you get some good advice!
SerenitiesScars · 31-35, M
You got to give them positive ways to destroy... Like pillow forts. And E rated videogames. And sand castles. And lego towers... That way they at least spend half the time building at first..
No video games for him lol. He gets books, has his own little tool set to build. Maybe it's just that he's a mamas boy haha I don't know
AnukBinary · M
Timeout really works.. And giving them the eye of death works later after the timeouts work if done properly.. I have an 8 year old boy.. And he's an angel..
You are definitely lucky. I had no problems with the girls so I don't know if it's a boy thing or if it's just that he is a spoiled brat who's really hyper. I had to get locks for everything cause he wants to go outside and get the tools to "fix cars" he can talk a lot and is extremely smart for his age which also has me wondering if he's bored cause he's not into toys but mainly more advanced things
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
Swat him, it kept me and three brothers in line. I have no advice for nonphysical parents.
Oh trust me I am all for an ass whooping, but it don't bother him. But keep in mind he's not even two yet lol
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
I was thinking just a firm hand to snap him out of the moment like how they teach dogs.
@Jackaloftheazuresand: lol kids are not dogs! But I know what you mean. He gets spanked when he won't listen i just hate having to be chasing him around all the time
SW-User
Maybe you could redirect his power on something useful (teach him some useful hobbies or so...)
Well as of right now he thinks he's a auto mechanic :)
SW-User
😂 that doesn't sound good
SW-User
lol. Boys can be hard to handle initially but later, they are easy to hold and handy ;)
Bodybag · 22-25, M
Dont yell or he will become immune to it. Just punish him.

 
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