Am I wrong for encouraging my boyfriend to find a new job before he quits his current job? He seems to think I am...

I didn't think it was anything out of the ordinary. I mean, it's common sense that you should find a job before you leave one. Last time he quit his job without a back up plan he was out of work for over a month. However, he seems to get upset thinking that all I care about is money and he likes to point out the fact that my job is unstable where sometimes I make money and other times I don't so in his mind he thinks I shouldn't be allowed to talk to him about finding a job( in general I make a lot less money than he does right now and things would be hard on both of us- mostly him- if he suddenly doesn't have an income), when really I don't want him to have trouble paying bills and end up losing the house or something (we live together part time). Plus I know it was bad for his mental and physical health when he stayed at home doing nothing but playing video games for a month straight with his grandmother having to support him. I don't want to be naggy or mother him, but I think it's a bad idea for him to just risk the chance of quitting and then not being able to find a new job. Am I wrong?

MasterDvdC · 61-69, M

Since it is an accomplished fact (i.e. he's already quit) and he knows your feelings about it. All it will do to harp on the subject is to put tension in the relationship. Especially if he is looking. If he isn't looking then you have another problem and decisions to make.

firefall · 61-69, M

No, you're right. For one thing, it's widely established that employers are more likely to hire someone who currently has a job, preferring them to people not currently employed

BrewCityBarfly · M

Yes, he's wrong unless he has the financial fortitude to not rely on others and pay his bills. I once took off a couple months to finish school, but had stockpiled enough cash to do so.