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Is Codependency stronger than Love in a relationship?

Is it the healthy or unhealthy emotions that bind us?
RebelOfSouthernEnvy46-50, F
I wouldn't define "codependency" as a symbol of "strentgh" because in reality it is a weak force which feeds off the weakness of another in order to gain the strentgh needed to remain in place...

... The real strentgh lies within the codependent soul who recognizes that this lifestyle (codependency) is not healthy and begins the necessary steps to remove themselves from the clutches of this all-consuming addiction because "codependency" is addiction, my friend....

... Just as a heroin addict is addicted to heroin and an alcoholic is addicted to alcohol, a codependent is addicted to relying on abusive and controlling personalities who are either addicts or just down right low confident individuals with no insight whatsoever on how to love. Usually, these types of personalities, which are appealing to codependents, don't even love themselves. Likewise, many codependents who feel "chained" or "imprisoned" in these types of relationships are also guilty of not possessing the ability to love themselves just as their abuser doesn't because they, like their abusers, are addicts. Codependency is an addiction and should be treated as such...

... Codependency is also a learned behavior, it is not a behavior we are born with such as walking and talking and eating, but it is a behavior that is produced through unhealthy and negative lifestyles or upbringings such as being raised by addictive parents, authoritative parents, or both...

... Love is stronger because once a person has mastered the art of love, beginning with learning to love the self first, the happiness within their light is so bright and feels so good that they discover a new much more powerful endorphin-inducing addiction馃尀猸愶笍
PfuzylogicM
@RebelofSouthernEnvy @Svarog
This is the serious discussion I was hoping for when I created this Post.
I personally find that codependency very corrosive but accepted as normal with many couples.
RebelOfSouthernEnvy46-50, F
@Pfuzylogic: codependency is accepted by many couples because many don't know how to break free from the cycle... I work with a few who have this mentality.
PfuzylogicM
It takes a lot of work and good Faith from both spouses.
@RebelofSouthernEnvy
LadyBronte56-60, F
I'm sure I don't know. Seems I was always in love by myself.
PfuzylogicM
That does take a tremendous amount of energy!
LadyBronte56-60, F
Been there. Done that. For the last time.
Codependency binds you, love frees you.馃挄馃挅馃挒
PfuzylogicM
What a beautiful guideline!
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Invisible26-30, M
Isn't it both?
PfuzylogicM
I think you have something; there is a balance.
Autumnbreeze41-45, F
What I see from people around me, it is much stronger for many good reasons. But for emotions parts, they seem to be healthy. Not sure tho
PfuzylogicM
Could you give an example?
Autumnbreeze41-45, F
By using the word 'stronger', I mean 'long-lasting relationship trough thick and thin'. It may mean both partners are just bound together legally. By codependency, I understand 'excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one with illness or addiction who requires support'. Example ;
1) In a situation where divorce, separation and single parenting are not socially (and/or legally and religiously) acceptable
2) If a grownup couple under arranged marriage or any similar forms of bonding and cohabiting for a long period of time will be able to raise a healthy and happy offsprings and close鈥搆nit families who again bind the couple together. Love may or may not occur during that long period of codependency but it works well for that particular society. Divorce rate is less than 3 (i don't have records but I have known 2 divorced couples over a time span of 30 years)

I hope it makes sense to you :)
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PfuzylogicM
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