Is it really okay to never hold a grudge against anyone?

Yes it's ok, no, not about who is 'better'. I don't hold grudges either, and I've had bad stuff happen to me (not as bad as some, worse than others). It's not about seeing the good in others though (it's important to learn lessons and avoid giving known bad people more chances to hurt you, after they've proved that they would). But holding grudges ties you to them, ties you to memories, drains your energy, and constantly keeps you from being fully happy - and at that point it's you choosing that, long past the harm they've done is past. I've seen (we've all seen) people destroyed by their grudges. They are constantly thinking about 'that person', they can't open up fully to anyone else, they have 'the bad things' playing on an infinite constantly escalating loop, they bring it up all the time until they drive their friends away, and so on. The 'bad people' handed you a rock, it's up to you if you keep carrying their gift or you put it down. And the easiest way to move past is to forgive them, and the easiest way to do that is to see and love the good in them as you walk away (I can love the good in a tiger after I know to keep it at a distance)

No it does not make her better than you. Jus a hell of a lot happier than you. Holding a grudge against someone. Is like you drinking poison and wanting them to die from it.

She Sounds delusional to me.

She's not better or necessarily naive. That's just her choice. I think a grudge is just part of a process of dealing with something. People are allowed to be mad for as long as they need. It's a longer route and more to work through but sometimes that's ehat a person needs.

I wouldn't say she was in love or naive, from a personal level I think its a defense mechanism. She knows what he's like but doesn't want any more crap in her life so just lets go. She sees the good because she's a decent being, her nature is lovely, don't under value her. I'd say she is a keeper.

I get it
If she holds a grudge she is the one holding onto the negative emotions of anger, hatred and resentment.
Good for her for letting this go.

Makes her an exceptional person. And it's totally fine to never hold a grudge, just remember to learn a lesson from whatever it was that happened.

It makes her a nicer person or still secretly in love with her ex idk

More power to her.

she never met my father and yes she is totally naive

Probably naive. You can forgive someone and still [b]stay away[/b] from them because they don't belong in your life.

A better person :P however she can still be naive, but thats a bonus.