I Coach a Sport Called Ball Hockey
Today, at the end of the game that my kids played in, I witnessed something disturbing to me.
An opposing coach that had just lost a close game to us, grabbing one of his players by the face mask and saying - -
"Why weren't you in front of the net? I told you to be in front of the net! What are you..., A dummy?"
He got on one knee and locked his fingers through the kid's facemask.... Locking eyes with the young boy and pretty much pouring out his own disappointments about losing all over the poor kid in front of everyone that was watching. As if his disappointment in that child, at that moment was nothing but water that could be easily dried off with a towel.
Well..., It's not water, and there are no bridges for that shit to flow under. That moment is a moment that will sit in that kid's mind for quite a while, I'm guessing.
As well intentioned as that man thinks he is..., He in that moment was a detriment to that child, his team, and to the sport on the whole.
In fact, I'd go as far as to say that he, in that moment, was an absolute embarrassment, and totally undeserving of the title 'COACH' !!!
My insides roiled as I steered my players towards their goalie as we always do after games. Keeping with our team's game routines, instead of saying something that I felt should have been said but may have gotten blown out into a different thing given the circumstances.
Seriously..., how much does a single game matter in a Fall season House League ?
Adults need to check their own egos at the door and be supportive in the losses and after wins show children how to be gracious and humble.
It's coaches doing things like that that keep me coaching long after my useful shelf life as a coach...
Simply out of a fear that more young minds might be molded by adults like that as they succumb to their basest of instincts in a small moment of disappointment.
When I was a kid, we did these things without adults, and we were all just fine.
If you want to teach and mold young people..., PLEASE - do it without scarring them and leaving them blanketed in feelings of insecurity and doubt !
Next time grab someone your own size by their face mask !
Bitchass !!!
BTW - I'm your size....
An opposing coach that had just lost a close game to us, grabbing one of his players by the face mask and saying - -
"Why weren't you in front of the net? I told you to be in front of the net! What are you..., A dummy?"
He got on one knee and locked his fingers through the kid's facemask.... Locking eyes with the young boy and pretty much pouring out his own disappointments about losing all over the poor kid in front of everyone that was watching. As if his disappointment in that child, at that moment was nothing but water that could be easily dried off with a towel.
Well..., It's not water, and there are no bridges for that shit to flow under. That moment is a moment that will sit in that kid's mind for quite a while, I'm guessing.
As well intentioned as that man thinks he is..., He in that moment was a detriment to that child, his team, and to the sport on the whole.
In fact, I'd go as far as to say that he, in that moment, was an absolute embarrassment, and totally undeserving of the title 'COACH' !!!
My insides roiled as I steered my players towards their goalie as we always do after games. Keeping with our team's game routines, instead of saying something that I felt should have been said but may have gotten blown out into a different thing given the circumstances.
Seriously..., how much does a single game matter in a Fall season House League ?
Adults need to check their own egos at the door and be supportive in the losses and after wins show children how to be gracious and humble.
It's coaches doing things like that that keep me coaching long after my useful shelf life as a coach...
Simply out of a fear that more young minds might be molded by adults like that as they succumb to their basest of instincts in a small moment of disappointment.
When I was a kid, we did these things without adults, and we were all just fine.
If you want to teach and mold young people..., PLEASE - do it without scarring them and leaving them blanketed in feelings of insecurity and doubt !
Next time grab someone your own size by their face mask !
Bitchass !!!
BTW - I'm your size....
