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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Being "in love" is one of the flimsiest situations in the world. According to studies and surveys, the intense state of mind caused by being in love lasts an average of 6 months to a year and a half. Religion is part of culture; it includes one's personal ethics as well as one's relationship with one's family and community. Giving up everything for "love" is usually a very bad idea, as anyone will tell you a year or two after they've done it.
Relationships that require giving up one's core beliefs, customs and people are rarely good relationships. In fact, it's good to ask if anyone who truly cared about you in any real way would even allow you to do that.
Romantic relationships are fleeting and that may be a good thing. The combination of romance and lust does not necessarily lead to finding a good, kind, appropriate long time mate. Flights of adolescent fantasy don't add up to solid marriages.
Relationships that require giving up one's core beliefs, customs and people are rarely good relationships. In fact, it's good to ask if anyone who truly cared about you in any real way would even allow you to do that.
Romantic relationships are fleeting and that may be a good thing. The combination of romance and lust does not necessarily lead to finding a good, kind, appropriate long time mate. Flights of adolescent fantasy don't add up to solid marriages.
Love doesn't really ask you to give up anything because of it!!
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@From2differentworlds: If you are saying religion could stand in the way, then there are four choices: One person gives up his/her religion, or the other person does, or they both do or they each go on practicing their religions. All of these choices would require that at least one person, or both, give up a belief, culture, and connection with family and traditions or attempt to resolve the problems of family acceptance of a mate not of his/her religious background. That last situation becomes especially difficult when children come into the picture.
@greenmountaingal: I agree!! I would definitely lay my beliefs to my children and let then decide!! Shoving religion down someone's throat isn't my thing especially if it's my children!! My beliefs are strong and I respect anyone's believe! It doesn't mean they are wrong! Always value the differences even on religion!