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Wraithorn · 51-55, M
It's not crucial but sometimes people's families lead them to believe so. That is because culture and family tradition is closely tied to religion in most cultures. So in my opinion it is as much about maintaining culture as it is about religion. Many parents and grandparents will naturally pressure their children to adhere to their culture.
If two people from different cultures/religions marry then at certain times in their children's lives there are going to be problems. At certain ages certain cultures require that ceremonies of some kind be carried out. This may result in family infighting including parents and grandparents. The poor child is left watching it's elders argue about things that it doesn't actually care about or understand or have any say over.
If two people from different cultures/religions marry then at certain times in their children's lives there are going to be problems. At certain ages certain cultures require that ceremonies of some kind be carried out. This may result in family infighting including parents and grandparents. The poor child is left watching it's elders argue about things that it doesn't actually care about or understand or have any say over.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Being "in love" is one of the flimsiest situations in the world. According to studies and surveys, the intense state of mind caused by being in love lasts an average of 6 months to a year and a half. Religion is part of culture; it includes one's personal ethics as well as one's relationship with one's family and community. Giving up everything for "love" is usually a very bad idea, as anyone will tell you a year or two after they've done it.
Relationships that require giving up one's core beliefs, customs and people are rarely good relationships. In fact, it's good to ask if anyone who truly cared about you in any real way would even allow you to do that.
Romantic relationships are fleeting and that may be a good thing. The combination of romance and lust does not necessarily lead to finding a good, kind, appropriate long time mate. Flights of adolescent fantasy don't add up to solid marriages.
Relationships that require giving up one's core beliefs, customs and people are rarely good relationships. In fact, it's good to ask if anyone who truly cared about you in any real way would even allow you to do that.
Romantic relationships are fleeting and that may be a good thing. The combination of romance and lust does not necessarily lead to finding a good, kind, appropriate long time mate. Flights of adolescent fantasy don't add up to solid marriages.
Love doesn't really ask you to give up anything because of it!!
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@From2differentworlds: If you are saying religion could stand in the way, then there are four choices: One person gives up his/her religion, or the other person does, or they both do or they each go on practicing their religions. All of these choices would require that at least one person, or both, give up a belief, culture, and connection with family and traditions or attempt to resolve the problems of family acceptance of a mate not of his/her religious background. That last situation becomes especially difficult when children come into the picture.
@greenmountaingal: I agree!! I would definitely lay my beliefs to my children and let then decide!! Shoving religion down someone's throat isn't my thing especially if it's my children!! My beliefs are strong and I respect anyone's believe! It doesn't mean they are wrong! Always value the differences even on religion!
You don't have to give up your beliefs!! Love doesn't require that!! It would be mindless for a man to try to turn a woman into something she isnt!! And around!
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I'm not saying you do, but sometimes people just don't feel comfortable coming to a compromise with someone that doesn't share the same beliefs.
@Aiyana: that's why we need more open minded people!! You appreciate the differences of the other person!
I believe in that
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Who said it is crucial?
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@From2differentworlds: In my opinion, religion should be about love, it preaches it doesn't it? But.....
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@From2differentworlds: indeed.
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bijouxbroussard · F
We are human beings! The only difference is what we believe in!! And that should be respected but that's it!
bijouxbroussard · F
@From2differentworlds: What we believe in can make all the difference in the world. If someone has been taught from birth that family and faith are everything, leaving it behind for a romantic relationship (which may or may not last) is not necessarily an easy choice to make.
I agree! However our lives are to be lived by us!! It wouldn't be fair for my child to deny her happiness because of what I believe in!! Her happiness to me matters the most and it's up to her to find it