You are focusing on the stereotypical and superficial teachings of some parents, and perhaps that is your perception of the parenting you received. But we learn a lot more from our parents than we fully realize from our parents until much later in life (which contributes to the perception of turning into our parents)j. This is driven home from your children after they are grown, and they tell you the lessons they feel they learned from you and invariably it is something from WATCHING how you handled something rather than anything you said, or attempted to teach. And as for the domestic teaching from your mother -- my son said it was the most invaluable lessons he received because it made him very popular with the girls (who had been too rebellious against their mothers to learn anything from their mothers) in the laundry room at the college dorm. And both sons are the primary cooks in their families because neither of their wives wanted to be stereotypical housewives.
That said, we need to be judicious in what learnings we wish to keep and build on and which we learn to eschew. My father was born in the 19th century, would have preferred to live his entire life in the 19th century, and clung to a lot of prejudices, biases, and outmoded ideas and ways of the 19th century. OTOH, I learned a lot by watching how none of those ever stopped him from respecting and working with others of all races and creeds, being adaptable, searching for pragmatic solutions, and self-taught learning even though he never went to high school.
