I really enjoy reading the bible but i just can't get over the cruelty of it. [Spirituality & Religion]

Every time i read something like "And then they burned him and his family alive" or "and they killed every man, woman and child" it just bums me out.
How can this be the will of a loving god? That's a hard pill to swallow.

Thoughts?

Edit*Can you imagine killing even a single little girl? That sweet, round little face looking up at you in terror as you cut her open? Much less THOUSANDS?! And that is what a just, loving, RIGHTEOUS god orders? I can't see that.