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How do you cut off a "friend" who isn't good for you? [Spirituality & Religion]

I've encountered somewhat of a counterfeit friend. He is no longer healthy for me and my relationship with Christ. He seems to be rejecting everything I say regarding Jesus know even though he claims to love him. our relationship is not the same at all. I feel like is is using me and is harming me more than helping.
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Tell him exactly what you have told us in your original post. He is a counterfeit friend who is no longer healthy for you and your relationship with Christ. Christ comes first.
May I ask how he is rejecting everything you say about Jesus?
How is he using you?
He may love Christ, but maybe he is struggling with his walk with Christ right now. Why do you think that is and when do you think it started?
Pray about what you need to do and what to say. If he is toxic God will close that door on your friendship with this person.
sweetiepoo · 36-40, F
@MissMollyCharlotte0702 Well, a lot of the things he says about God, at one point he says he didn't want to hear, sometimes when I send him a lot of verses he tells me to stop. most recently he told me that he cannot fight who he is. (He enjoys sex with multiple women, etc.) He has asked me for help financially and every time said he would pay me back, He knows that I don't have a lot of money, but I offered to put it on my credit card. 4 months later he hasn't mentioned it. I don't want to bing it up because biblically I believe I am supposed to let let him have it and move on. I thought I was helping him, but even his mom told him not to take anything from me because he would be using me. I thought he was struggling and lost too. But he is not even willing to try. He cursed God for his situation and there is no fruit. I thought I knew why he might have been struggling, but I think it is mac deeper than that now. I will be in continuous prayer and thank you.
He sounds like my brother. 😳 A true Christian doesn’t mind verses as most Christians walking with Christ find them helpful. He is the way he is because that is what he chooses. He has sex with multiple women because that is what he chooses to do.
You need to bring up the money that is owed. He has used you. My brother does this. Make him responsible. Tell him that you no longer trust him and he is to never ask for money from you again.you were helping him, but to give him anything else would not be helping him. Tell him the Godly thing to do is pay someone back when they have borrowed money and leave it at that. When you don’t make it a priority to pay someone back it is the same as stealing. It is not up to you to save him and rescue him. He will need to hit bottom and learn to lean on God for rescuing and saving.
He is wandering aimlessly instead of staying on the path God has for him. Of course he curses God...he isn’t following him. To tell you to stop sending verses tells me his relationship with God is shaky.
He does sound toxic. I would cut ties...but not until I told him exactly why. He needs to know that you both are on two different levels and you don’t feel it is in your best interest to be around him.

@sweetiepoo
sweetiepoo · 36-40, F
@MissMollyCharlotte0702 You are right. I think he was at rock bottom, but then I took initiative to help him. Maybe I should've not helped him? Let him drown at let God save him? I donor know its all confusing. Thank yo for your comment. I will consider some of your suggestions. However I honestly don't think it's my place to ask for my money back. ( that's just I my opinion,) I just shouldn't have lended it out in the first place. If i knew it was a possible that I Wouldn't get it back and I would end up struggling and hurt finally I shouldn't have done it. I felt bad that he had nothing at the time and knew that he had income that would be coming in soon.
It’s up to you whether you ask for your money back, but when someone does something wrong we need to call them on it. It’s not about you getting your money back really...it’s about letting him know that the Godly thing to do is make it a priority to pay someone back if they have borrowed money. It’s like stealing if they don’t make it a priority. He has not made it a priority to repay you and it’s wrong.
You definitely did the right thing by helping him, but he’s taken advantage of your kindness. That is where you have to draw the line so he does not continue to take advantage of you.
.@sweetiepoo
sweetiepoo · 36-40, F
@MissMollyCharlotte0702 Thank you so much