How do you cut off a "friend" who isn't good for you? [Spirituality & Religion]

I've encountered somewhat of a counterfeit friend. He is no longer healthy for me and my relationship with Christ. He seems to be rejecting everything I say regarding Jesus know even though he claims to love him. our relationship is not the same at all. I feel like is is using me and is harming me more than helping.

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Fernie · F

How is he harming you exactly?

sweetiepoo · 36-40, F

@Fernie Not harming physically, but I before I have prayed to have God remove the romantic attraction I was developing, I was bing influenced and was doing, saying and doing things that were not Christlike. I am beginning to put our relationship before my relationship with God. He is using me financially, He is beginning to disrespect me. He has lied to me several times already. There is more, but that's the gist of it. I am beginning to ask myself why do I cal him a friend. I honestly don't know how to answer that question anymore. He does't encourage me anymore. He often talks about having sex with other women and continually uses foul language. He has really never helped me. He was there at one time to listen to me and check up on me, but even that isn't the same...

Fernie · F

@sweetiepoo "but I before I have prayed to have God remove the romantic attraction I was developing, I was bing influenced and was doing, saying and doing things that were not Christlike. I am beginning to put our relationship before my relationship with God. He is using me financially," Sweetie.....ALL of the above is your doing...not his, not god's...yours. Are you saying you have no power in your life? That anyone can "make" you do their bidding and you can't see it or resist? Is he a friend or lover?
" He has really never helped me. He was there at one time to listen to me and check up on me, but even that isn't the same..."
Take care of yourself...this remark indicates that you might just expect too much from others. Sorry, the way I read your post...you don't take responsibility for your own life and choices but instead...blame others...making you the victim.

sweetiepoo · 36-40, F

@Fernie Maybe I did expect too much considering we were supposed to be best friends especially whenI thought both us us had a passion for God. We used to talk about God all the time, like spending entire evenings taking about the goodness of God.

Fernie · F

@sweetiepoo people change. I'm sure there are many many people who believe all that and would love to talk endlessly about your god. Might be time to move on and find them..and thank you for not becoming angry and defensive...that says a lot about you