Conservative father? [Spirituality & Religion]

I just want to start off with saying that I respect my father very much. He has been married to my mother for 41 years and shows her love and respect and he has strong morals and values. With that being said though, he is very religious, in which there is nothing wrong with that, but he pushes his beliefs on to me. For example, I grew up Catholic and he told a few times, if I don't get married in a church someday, he won't come to my wedding, so I if I chose to get married on a beach he wouldn't attend. The thing is, religion is important to me, but it's important to me because I want it to be, not because of my father's opinion. I even had a discussion with him a while ago saying, people have the right to choose what religion they want to be and feel what is right for them and his response was, you were raised Catholic, so you should remain that way. Is this what a conservative father is? Again I respect him very much, so please no rude comments.

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USMCGUY · 46-50, M

People constantly confuse religious with conservative. You can have extremely religious people aren’t on the conservative side of the political spectrum. What you have is a father who cares for you and has a belief system that he thinks will be good for you in this life and the next. He loves you so much that feels compelled to give you his opinion. I would not let this frustrate you. I would take it as wise counsel and then make your decision on where you want to be married.

You sound like an old-fashioned guy with some old-fashioned values. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

summerlove · 31-35, F

@USMCGUY Like I said I have so much respect for him and think he is a wonderful father. Talking in general though, I think it's fine for parents to raise children with their beliefs, but once they are an adult, they're free to believe what they want, even if you don't agree with them. God does give you free will. Parents can advise their children, but in the end, it is their decision. For me, religion is very important and it's definitely a part of my life.

USMCGUY · 46-50, M

You may no longer be a child but you will always be their child.

summerlove · 31-35, F

@USMCGUY I agree.