Conservative father? [Spirituality & Religion]

We weren’t born to be people pleasers, and as adults, it’s great to make and have our own decisions. While those decisions are sometimes very difficult, we must not change our position to accommodate others. You do your thing and let him do his, but don’t let his decision sway yours. You know you both love each other, that is clear. I know this is hurtful, but you were right on, in what you told him about choices. If or when you marry, I would not put a guilt trip on him, but I would at least let him know in a loving manner, that you love him and respect his decision, and know that he must do what he feels is best for him, but that you’d really like your father at your wedding to share in this once in a lifetime special ceremony. Then leave that decision up to him. When we say our vows before God, he honors that, regardless of time or place. You might remind him of that. I do hope he changes his mind, as I think he will regret it the rest of his life if he doesn’t. Regardless of his decision, you do know that he loves you with all his heart, and I hope and pray you will not let his decision spoil your special day, should he not attend. Perhaps you could have a talk with your mother, and explain that it would mean so much and be so special to you, to have wedding photos with all the family in them. Maybe in that way, she will explain that to your father. Where in the Bible, I would ask him, does it say a man and woman must be married in a church. It doesn’t. It simply states that a man and woman should make their vows before the Lord. Marriage is more than just making a commitment to someone else. It is also entering into a holy covenant before God. In Malachi, God rebuked the people of Judah for not following His laws. These are things which you might point out to your father. I hope he will change his mind and attend your wedding. Prayer changes everything. Pray that God will speak to your father‘s heart on this matter. I wish you the best and God’s special blessings in your life and marriage. Let the Lord be the head of your home and your marriage always, and your life shall be surely blessed.

LOL. Cradle Catholics are Catholic forever. No matter how many times you change denomination or be atheist. Inevitably it will start with "I grew up Catholic", I was raised Catholic, but..." etc.

As a adult, you can choose what you want, just examine your reasons.

Your father is old school. That can be different than conservative. It sounds more authoritarian.

You are in your upper 20's. Parents should have transitioned from being 'my rules or hit the highway', to more of a relationship between adults.... albeit senior and junior adults.

If you choose to get married on the beach, fine. Just understand Dad won't be there. He is entitled to his beliefs as much as you are.

People constantly confuse religious with conservative. You can have extremely religious people aren’t on the conservative side of the political spectrum. What you have is a father who cares for you and has a belief system that he thinks will be good for you in this life and the next. He loves you so much that feels compelled to give you his opinion. I would not let this frustrate you. I would take it as wise counsel and then make your decision on where you want to be married.

You sound like an old-fashioned guy with some old-fashioned values. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

When I was seven, both my parents became born again christians, in fact very strict catholics. Their whole style of parenting changed dramatically, and physical punishments started, I was forced to attend church and sunday school and I objected and became very angry with them. Then they sent me off to a christian boarding school until I was 14 and basically it destroyed my relationship with them. I think we both have conservative fathers and if thats what they want to be it's fine, but they can't complain when they are old if their actions have cost them a close relationship with their kids. They are supposed to be adults.

no rude comments,you love and respect him,that's all that matters,the diffrences you can see past that,

i grew up christian. so im also conservative in nature. i dont think a wedding at a beach would be a bad thing if your father doesnt want to attend then thats on him. if i was to tell my parents i dont believe in the same religion they believe they would probably get me to change. every religion is different. he's having a hard time because he wants you to be what he wants you to be and not what you want to be.

Well if he doesn’t attend your wedding ,who loses more.. you or him?

Do whag u feel sweety, if he loves u he will be there(in flip flops), hes a loving Father, its hiz job to comlromise.

His job iz make his lil Princess happy on her big day.

I believe in god but I'm denominational because Catholicism and lutherism were made by the chupacabra to shape gods image in his favor.

It's a trait that would fall under the umbrella of being socially conservative, but it's not de facto.
Honestly that's just your dad being a conservative and uptight Catholic. I kinda know that world from first hand experience.