A Step Towards Equality?

A women who abused her husband has been sentenced to 4 years imprisonment - https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11798583/Prison-reform-boss-grins-jailed-20-year-campaign-abuse-against-husband.html Considering the level of abuse, she was let off quite lighty but at least it's a step in the right direction.

It's notable that the sentencing judge was a women. Some commentators suggest that was why she got such a light sentence but, from what I've seen in other cases, a male judge would probably have been even more lenient.

It's about time the police and courts starting treating female on male domestic abuse seriously. All too often male victims are fobbed off with "It's not a police matter, Sir."

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SteelHands · 61-69, M

I don't know about this case but know many victims will forgive and patiently hope the abuser will stop. Then get fed up and finally fight back -

at which point - the conniving abusers pose as victim. Courts happily prosecute whichever brings the formal charges first.
In some cases that means the actual victim gets marked for life with a record as a domestic abuser.

(Ghee the government doesn't really care? Oh don't worry melvin they do Just not the [i][b]way[/b][/i] you think they do.)

My take it or leave it advice? Get out immediately at the first indication. When someone abuses and you're patiently waiting out of love for it to stop - avoid being accused and further abused as an abuser by the court.

Remember capn Jack.

Sharon · F

@SteelHands [quote]Courts happily prosecute whichever brings the formal charges first.[/quote]
In practice that's usually the woman because the police routinely refuse to accept male victims' complaints of female perpetrated abuse.

SteelHands · 61-69, M

@Sharon Hm yes, appearancism is alive and well. Those appearances can make or break all standing prejudices by rookie authority figures. A smallerish diminuitive looking man or woman will almost always prevail in those prejudices. The heavier or stockier one, regardless which one is the habitual hitter, especially ones that are willing to self inflict or have a health issue that make bruising anywhere on the body to show his or her own "evidence" to police and courts.

My own experiences taught me this. I'm terribly regretful not to have spoken more openly since now someone near to me, actually my son, has been victimized by courts in a similar way and prevented from seeing his child almost completely. It's devastating to live through being branded the bad guy when you know you're not. It's even more painful to see someone else become so misled that they walk right into a trap like that which you know it would be absolutely ridiculously impossible to dissuade them. And now that he knows it doesn't vindicate or make me feel any better. I feel worse actually. All of it could have been avoided had I myself not allowed myself to walk into what was essentially that same circumstance.

That's why I'm so glad Mr. Depp won his lawsuit. I know exactly what happened there and don't doubt myself in the least. I can say tho that my blonde was far smaller and more beautiful then his. Lol