I Hate Women Who Abuse Men
Women who abuse men are scum. They can get away with it too because the police refuse to take action against them.
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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
The research was based on answers to a self assessment questionnaire.. unfortunately this method has been found to be unreliable in many cases.. thngs like men reporting more sexual partners and women reporting less… sometimes we portray what we want to believe we are rather than what we are.. in domestic abuse and in life in general now there is a HUGE backlash against feminism.. it’s become a dirty word.. even my daughter has picked up on it.. and yet factually we just don’t see these women who are all these things we are told they are.. it’s hype, propaganda.. and we do see a lot of this anti-feminist stuff that is generated by who knows being fed to women.. who join the cause… so we need to watch out for that too..
Fact is men and women are not the same.. yes we are, or should be, equal but we aren’t the same.. and fairness is the real point.. sometimes men will need more than women in order not to discriminate against them. And sometimes women will need more in order that they have access to the same chances.. If either side is going to pick and grumble about that we won’t ever get anywhere.. it’s almost like it’s a distraction.
SO to get back to the report you cited.. quote, “• 4.2% of women and 4.2% of men said they had been physically assaulted by a current or former partner in the last year. 4.9% of men and 5.9% of women had experienced physical assault and/or frightening threats. These levels are considerably higher than figures from other BCS measures. • Women were twice as likely as men to have been injured by a partner in the last year, and three times as likely to have suffered frightening threats. They were also more likely to have been assaulted three or more times.” – again bearing in mind this is self reporting.. so we really don’t know if these things were actual abuse or not.. but even here the fact that women were twice as likely to have the abuse result in injury is telling.. We need to bear in mind that domestic abuse is now considered to be not just physical abuse but emotional and coercive..
I wont cite every figure and drone on about each one but figures like…12% of women and 5% of men…23% of women and 15% of men…physical violence higher against women with men reporting abuse re victimisation.. women more likely to be injured… women more likely to say they were upset by the abuse than men..majority of women saying they were frightened compared to minority of men…. ¾ of chronic abuse victims were women… virtually all incidences of violence against women were by men 99% and 95% of violence against men was by women, (as in some was perpetrated by men as I said)…
Point here being.. that even the research you mentioned, doesn’t quite say what you say it does – the figs are used fairly selectively .
Suzie you and i are old school. we were raised to feel that a woman's goal in life is to marry and have kids...it was a different time and place... honestly i dont believe men are ill treated generally and certainly not overall.. men get discriminated against sometimes but it remains the case women face way more of that than men.
Fact is men and women are not the same.. yes we are, or should be, equal but we aren’t the same.. and fairness is the real point.. sometimes men will need more than women in order not to discriminate against them. And sometimes women will need more in order that they have access to the same chances.. If either side is going to pick and grumble about that we won’t ever get anywhere.. it’s almost like it’s a distraction.
SO to get back to the report you cited.. quote, “• 4.2% of women and 4.2% of men said they had been physically assaulted by a current or former partner in the last year. 4.9% of men and 5.9% of women had experienced physical assault and/or frightening threats. These levels are considerably higher than figures from other BCS measures. • Women were twice as likely as men to have been injured by a partner in the last year, and three times as likely to have suffered frightening threats. They were also more likely to have been assaulted three or more times.” – again bearing in mind this is self reporting.. so we really don’t know if these things were actual abuse or not.. but even here the fact that women were twice as likely to have the abuse result in injury is telling.. We need to bear in mind that domestic abuse is now considered to be not just physical abuse but emotional and coercive..
I wont cite every figure and drone on about each one but figures like…12% of women and 5% of men…23% of women and 15% of men…physical violence higher against women with men reporting abuse re victimisation.. women more likely to be injured… women more likely to say they were upset by the abuse than men..majority of women saying they were frightened compared to minority of men…. ¾ of chronic abuse victims were women… virtually all incidences of violence against women were by men 99% and 95% of violence against men was by women, (as in some was perpetrated by men as I said)…
Point here being.. that even the research you mentioned, doesn’t quite say what you say it does – the figs are used fairly selectively .
Suzie you and i are old school. we were raised to feel that a woman's goal in life is to marry and have kids...it was a different time and place... honestly i dont believe men are ill treated generally and certainly not overall.. men get discriminated against sometimes but it remains the case women face way more of that than men.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
My husband was repeatedly beaten by his first wife, often needing hospital treatment for his injuries, but the police refused to take any action against her. They told him it was a civil matter or that there were no witnesses. When there were witnesses, they claimed they were his friends so couldn't be witnesses.
As the police refused to accept his complaints against her, none of those incidents are recorded or, if they are, they'll show his first wife as the victim.
The sexist scumbags were quick enough to arrest him when she took a drunken swing at him, missed and fell over slightly hurting herself. The police even tried to get the witnesses to say he had attacked her!
It should be clear that the statistics are completely skewed by selective reording like that and simply go to support the myth that women are the overwhelming majority of victims.
You say a woman is less able to defend herself. That's not true as female abusers often use weapons. An abused man might be able physically to hit buck but the moment he does he becomes the abusive monster, thus helps to perpetuate the myth that men aren't abused. You also say men are more able to leave. Really? Where can they and their children go? There are very few battered men's shelters. If they do leave, they might be forced to leave their children with their abuser. What father would be willing to do that?
As the police refused to accept his complaints against her, none of those incidents are recorded or, if they are, they'll show his first wife as the victim.
The sexist scumbags were quick enough to arrest him when she took a drunken swing at him, missed and fell over slightly hurting herself. The police even tried to get the witnesses to say he had attacked her!
It should be clear that the statistics are completely skewed by selective reording like that and simply go to support the myth that women are the overwhelming majority of victims.
You say a woman is less able to defend herself. That's not true as female abusers often use weapons. An abused man might be able physically to hit buck but the moment he does he becomes the abusive monster, thus helps to perpetuate the myth that men aren't abused. You also say men are more able to leave. Really? Where can they and their children go? There are very few battered men's shelters. If they do leave, they might be forced to leave their children with their abuser. What father would be willing to do that?