It is difficult being friends with someone you don't respect.

You don't respect due to them joking about abortion rights and trivializing women's rights being dismissed.

Can't really respect that.

You can shower me with flattery and say you love me all you need. But at the end of the day I know how you see women.

And I don't feel like any of what you say is true.

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SUPERVlXEN · F

I suspect the worst part will be that they can't even see why you feel like that, and that the lack in their respect of women happens to target you as a woman too. I'd have a hard time being friends with people who are opposing my basic human values.

Miram · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN

Yes , this extends to all basic human values.

I remember having so much admiration for this person because I thought they understood my struggles as an exmuslim and why they are legitimate and need be discussed for the benefit of all the minority, not just me.

Until one time I saw them talking against another ex-muslim who was criticizing their muslim community where they are living.

And the point that really stuck with me was when they were saying they sympathize with good "ex-muslims'' like me who don't offend them I guess...sympathize being the keyword.

The fact that they acted like empathy was doing me a favor not acknowledging basic human rights made me realize how little they think of me. It is effing disgusting

Miram · 31-35, F

@SUPERVlXEN

They think of me even less than the person they were attacking. They think I am weak.

But in their head they are respecting me..

I fucking hate when people do that

SUPERVlXEN · F

@Miram
To me there seems to be several fuck ups in this person's ways of rationalizing. First of all, on a personal level, they seem to have mistaken empathizing for what's barely even tolerating, out of whatever motives that might be. It won't however be you as a woman, an ex-muslim, or the values you stand for. I'm sorry you have been mislead into a friendship with such a person. 🤗

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

Difficult? No. More like impossible. 😐

KiwiBird · 36-40, F

@sarabee1995 This....

Mindfulness

I saw a quote somewhere but can't find it now, it's something like this, but forgive any inaccuracies.

"We can be be friends if we disagree about things, if those things are Star Trek, not if they're human rights."

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

It's even harder when they are your family. You can end a friendship but it's hard to cut ties with family.

SW-User

Yes it is ...it's why I don't have many

V00doo

If it gets to that point, we're no longer friends.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

The only reason I've tolerated people I dislike is because of a common friend's group, otherwise I'd avoid them like herpes.

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