Are ya one of those people that have to be invited?
I hate that when theres a party going on or friends are going out to dinner but you weren't invited. You just happen to hear about it one way or the other. Sometimes someone will say "Oh you can go if you want to". No. Its not about wanting to go, its about wanting to be wanted. Wanting to be invited. Kind of hurts when you're left out like that. "Oh I can ask if its okay you go?" No that defeats the purpose. Don't mention me if he/she wasn't already thinking of me
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when i was younger i used to be like that and want to feel included and want to be invited even if i did not want to go to said event. Now I look not to be invited to anything haha. I cant even be bothered to make excuses on why I cant attend something, would rather people just dont think of me at all. I like my small crowd of people I am around and thats it
@Torsten But that's the thing, you have people, albeit a small group, you still have your people. If thats the case you must feel complete and happy with what you have. I don't have that for myself yet.
@JestAJester i didnt have that till I stopped caring. Funny when I tried to be more social and be liked, it didnt go well at all for me. When I stoped caring and was happy with my own company, People just seemed to flock to that more and I found some people I actually like being around.
Dont give up mate, you will find what you're searching for. You seem like a good guy. I have no doubt you will find some people that you will have that with
@Torsten Funny you say that. In a sense I dont care anymore but I do care. But I'm not stressing over it. I'm slowing convincing myself if I want what I want I need to do something about myself. I need to improve. I started weight lifting and its not only improving my health but mental well being too.
@JestAJester sounds like you are on a good path. I think once you stop caring so much what others think and are content and happy with yourself, People will want to be around you.
@Torsten but it also repels people. Because I don't curb my language. I come off opinionated, even hateful sometimes not intentionally. I've noticed over the years I have a natural, unintentional ability to offend.
@JestAJester would you honestly want to be around those types of people that would disaprove that about you though? Best to avoid those easily offended and find like minded strong willed people
