Aside from talking to a therapist, how did you learn to trust anyone again?
"Just take a chance" or "just make up your mind to" or even "just go for it" doesn't cut it.
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ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
I have had such huge struggles with trusting again.
It wasn’t until a friend of mine (this friend also, incidentally, was a serial ‘cheater’ ) told me that I have to think of it differently.
He said I have to stop thinking about [i]‘if my guy will cheat on me’[/i] simply because of the possibility that he could be a cheater…and start thinking of it as [i][b]I deserve to be treated well and respected[/b][/i]
I don’t really know how or why that helped me, but it did.
I can’t focus on what COULD happen, but rather focus on ‘what I DESERVE in this relationship’
(I still have days though….it’s not easy to trust again)
It wasn’t until a friend of mine (this friend also, incidentally, was a serial ‘cheater’ ) told me that I have to think of it differently.
He said I have to stop thinking about [i]‘if my guy will cheat on me’[/i] simply because of the possibility that he could be a cheater…and start thinking of it as [i][b]I deserve to be treated well and respected[/b][/i]
I don’t really know how or why that helped me, but it did.
I can’t focus on what COULD happen, but rather focus on ‘what I DESERVE in this relationship’
(I still have days though….it’s not easy to trust again)
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
@ImpeccablyImperfect Thanks.