I was invited to a sad movie marathon pajama party girl’s night this Friday. And I know this doesn’t matter, but I’m anxious and I don’t know the person that invited me very well. I don’t know what to wear. Most of the time I sleep in an oversized (not cute) shirt or sweatshirt. I have active shorts I could wear with it, but other people are probably going to be wearing cute pajamas, right? I have a few nighties but they’re either like not cute muumuus or sexy ones, and those don’t feel right. I found this super cute set online, but it doesn’t look stretchy and I’m scared to order it and either be bursting out of those buttons, or look dumpy if I try to size up
My best options are either this set I have with the palm trees. I have the matching top and bottom (sorry about the dog hair I pulled them out of the laundry to look at them)
The only problem is the top is a tank top and it kind of hangs a little under the arms, and I’m worried I’m going to be self conscious with my arms out. I could wear my hair down like I did here, but I just don’t feel confident with this choice
and then I have these cute shorts, but I don’t have a matching top. I could go out and buy either a white or maybe a pink shirt to go with it
Or should I just go out and try to find something else entirely?
Good grief girl. You are gorgeous. Just wear whatever feels comfortable and hold your head high. Nothing wrong with mismatched tops and bottoms, just have the right attitude, lots of attitude! It's a pyjama party not a Dior couture event. Anyone going out of the way to dress up is either missing the point or the kind of person you surely wouldn't rate highly in the first place.
What have you got to lose? Just be yourself, your own self not someone else's Idea of what you should be.
In case you're not at ease with what you buy online, it's a good idea to go to a physical store and find the one you like to wear. Think about it as if it were Halloween; you have the freedom to wear whatever you want.
I’m second guessing myself. What if the people who invited me don’t really want me there and hope I don’t show up. I’m thinking I should just say something came up and not go. I hate that I’m like this
@Cassieeeee at this point everything is so wrapped up in anxiety and self doubt that I truly don’t know what I want. I know that I would feel relief if I didn’t go, because I would stop thinking about all the ways I’m just going to embarrass myself. My therapist says I should live a life of doing. But that is so hard to do. I like the idea of going when it doesn’t involve me actually thinking about going.
@itsok I think they wouldn’t have invited you if they didn’t want you there. A PJ party is something kinda intimate imo, so they probably mean it. It’s not like it’s a wedding that they’re forced to invite people because of formalities etc. I would say go there and if at any point you feel uncomfortable, just leave. Make sure to go in your own car too.
@itsok My therapist told me the same, and I try my best to be social and go do things, but I know exactly what you mean. Most of time I do feel happy afterwards that I went, and sometimes I can feel my battery draining while I'm out, and just want to go home again. Beauty about that tho, is that if you at some point feel that it was a mistake, you can always go home, and if not you'll have a good time🩷
Tbh, I went to a trip last June where I had no idea who I was going to be with in the camping bungalow but I took something neutral and looking "new" enough to not feel sloppy and raggedly. I ended up with 3 girls aged 25-26 and one of them had typical cute pajamas with cartoon motives and another had sexy lingerie. 😆 They teased each other a bit and that was it. We didn't have our own bathroom and had to walk through the camp to showers/ toilets and back so you can imagine how much fun we had...Honestly, I don't even remember what top I had, just that I had pajama shorts because I was cold as hell when I had to walk through that camp.
There is a bit of light hearted humour in my , response , having been familiar with many of the folk who responded ... I don't play the x's and y's game , i just act accordingly .
I think going with the flamingo shorts and a plain comfy top would be nice. Comfy, cute, and safe. If it were me I'd probably just go buy a new matching set though. Marshalls and TJMaxx tend to have cute sets for reasonable prices.
@Nadie I went ahead and ordered the pink set, and if it doesn’t fit right I’m gonna go out on Thursday and get something new. Or a top to go with the flamingo shorts. Thank you. I will check Marshall’s, I didn’t even think of them
I agree with NerdyPotato. Comfort is key. If it was me going I'd wear pj bottoms I also use as regular pants, and a tanktop. Counts as pj, but works as casual daywear aswell. As for the hair, I think a messy bun would do the trick. You could arrive with your hair down then put it up later if you feel like it.
This reminds me of my first sleep over at 10. I was gonna take something I usually sleep in. Mom wanted me to wear matching pajamas. I remember I ended up wearing a red Christmas pajama set with Christmas stuff all over it. It was April...Meanwhile everyone else had on t-shirt and shorts 🥴😄
I would get the first one and size up if you’re not too sure about the true size . Especially if you’ve worn a size up before and it still looked good. I for instance can wear a size up, it looks a bit more “baggy “ but nothing like wearing a potato sack lol.
No, if its a pajama party like you kinda have to wear cute pajamas and i think it ok to buy some specifically for pajama parties. Lol Forever 21 has the cutest ones rn, idk if you like rompers but they fit nicely and so comfy!
The shit we put ourselves through to have a bit of fun haha. I'm not the target audience but I do think you should wear what you end up feeling the most comfortable in (from an anxiety inducing perspective).
I'd probably use this as an excuse to go buy something new and if I didn't find anything I liked after 1-2 stores, I'd grow frustrated and convince myself that I don't care if I wear the ugly oversized tshirt. I usually wear an graphic t and cheap leggings so I'd easily be able to just figure out something with them but I do love to buy pajamas with sheep on them when I find them so maybe I'd look for new sleep sheep.
I hope you have fun whatever you decide to wear! 😊
I'm not going to comment on what you should do since you wanted a female opinion on that (and it seems like you've already decided) but I just had to say, you are gorgeous in the photo with the palm tree top. Also, originally being from Miami, I love anything with palm trees or flamingos. You have great taste in PJs.
IMO, you worry too much. Whatever sleepwear you choose, you will look great in. Don't overthink it. Go with what you feel most comfortable in, enjoy the party and the movies and have yourself a good time.
Online can be a gamble. So maybe got out to a retail store where you can try on the item before you purchase it. That way you can see it with your own eyes and get the fit you desire.
Do you have a blue or green shirt to use for the shorts that would match? Or maybe do in person shopping for a set so you can try it on and see if the vibe fits.
@666Maggotz I don’t, but I went ahead and just ordered the pink set. It’s supposed to arrive on Wednesday, and if it doesn’t fit right I’ll just go out on Thursday and try to find something else. Thank you
You could buy some cute pyjamas for the party.Going into an actual shop rather than buying online would be best.You can then wear them at home and get good use out of them.You look great with your hair down.
Don't overthink it. You can wear Lululemon style tights and a cute T-shirt. I would wear something that I could also wear outside which is basically what I wear everyday. Just be yourself and be relaxed which is the main part of having fun. I wouldn't order anything on short notice because you seem anxious and it's better to go to Walmart and just buy the stuff I mentioned or a cute pajamas from them that you can try on the spot to make sure that you feel comfortable in it.
What you already own is absolutely awesome and you look beautiful. You don’t have to spend a penny more unless you’d just like something new. Either way it should be about you being comfortable and having a really good time. 😊
