What’s a red flag when it comes to dating or meeting someone new? 🚩

I would say if they have a bunch of family problems. They are "going through a divorce" or having child custody disputes with their "ex". Especially because even if I WERE trying to date, I do not want some 50 year old who is still trying to raise elementary school aged kids or raising grand kids.

Or if they just broke up with their ex for the umpteenth time but THIS time they are really finished. 🙄

Catching them in little lies, not keeping up the energy or communication they started with.

Too much too fast. Like they have to corral you or you'll escape.

Someone who doesn’t respect your boundaries.

When their life has a lot of drama, which they explain came about from every other reason than their own choices

The love bombing.

If they have cancel worthy memes

A person that just talks about themselves.

They attempt to get sexual too fast, and ignore requests to slow down. For me, that’s [b]huge[/b].
They try to control or isolate you.
You get bad vibes from them, even if you can’t define them. [b]Trust that[/b].

In college, I refused to date a guy because even as a "friend" he was overbearing and resented me spending time with my cousins or women friends. I went home that summer, and was happy that he’d turned his attentions to another girl, until I heard that he strangled her during an argument later that year.

I listen to my instincts, [b]always[/b].

Isolating you from family and friends.

They look like an elf

He's over 30 and still living with his mom.
He's over 30 and you're his first girlfriend (or date).
He's unemployed or underemployed.
He needs to know everything about you all at once.
OR he talks incessantly only about himself
Road rage.
If he takes you to a restaurant, he's rude to the servers
If he takes you shopping, he's hostile toward the clerks
He displays a victim attitude about his past jobs
He's always right and everyone else is always wrong
He sleeps in his office (may be hiding from creditors)
After the first date, he follows you everywhere.
He proposes marriage or moving in much too soon.
Your friends, boss or family don't like the way he treats you.
He has no sense of humor.

And those are just a few...

Moving too fast. Trying to be too controlling or making you feel bad about not paying them constant attention.

There are so many to choose from. My thing is looking me in the eye. If another cannot, it's a huge red flag for me.

Laughing at all those replying here who are obviously perfect. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

You distinctly smell chloroform when they knock at your door and see the outline of the handcuffs that are in their front pants pocket? 😂

Trump hat, beer belly and shoes on the wrong feet.

They start drinking heavy before you arrive.

They compare me to their ex.
"You remind me of this girl I knew who had green eyes like u" said one person. Also said person was someone they were hung up over and they became very angry when I wanted absolutely nothing to do with them because they treated me like shit.

He arrives late
Plays with his phone all the time
He smokes...yuk!
He speaks/treats the servers badly
Appalling dress sense
Has a body odour problem
Won't shut up about his ex
He can't hold an intelligent conversation
He is politically opposite to me

Asking what they do for fun and not getting a quick answer.

Resistance to answer anything about their family.

No sharing of occupational anecdotes.

No dream.

He brings his wife as a wingman.

She has a Adam's apple.....

Red head

everything is a red flag these days for everyone dating, if you breathe the wrong way its a red flag better question would be what are green flags

Facebook page that features picture after picture of themselves, like it's their own private portrait gallery.

For me is too much closeness with his mother. I know there're a ton of red flags out there. But this one I've been burnt with repetitively

Keeps an ax , rope and duct tape in the trunk of their car


No ..wait nevermind that's me 😬

their background on their phone is just a picture of them…

When they talk about how they play others.

No profile pic or no answer when you call

Insecurity, argumentativeness

A MAGA hat

Their religious/political affiliation. Im not going to deal with a bunch of theocrats hell bent on bringing about the apocalypse by a thousand paper cuts.
And these are the good upstanding citizens of the neighborhood usually.
But then they are usually very vocal and proud of their "alternative facts" so they are easy to spot.

Bodies in the basement. That's usually a bad sign

They keep stalking you on SW.