I Believe People Come Into Your Life For a Reason

I am in love with a man that hates himself. He is so beautiful, everything about him. The way he speaks, his style of clothes, his uniqueness, his masculinity, his emotional side, his intelligence, and the way he views the world. He is perfect for me. And he loves me with all his being, he is so kind, patient, loving, understanding, available, willing, open, and honest. But he hates himself. He has struggled with self harm and suicidal tendencies for a very long time. I could never hate him. In fact, most of the time I don't understand how he could hate himself so much, he is such a beautiful human being in every way. I know we met for a reason that neither of us knows yet. We needed and still need eachother. Not clear the true reason...yet.

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flimflam · M

I've been there, the self loathing will destroy him and you will suffer watching it. I highly recommend going at it head on NOW while he has the strength to be open minded about the reasons. It gets way harder once the depression takes hold, as it will.

Self help, CBT, a psychiatrist, counseling... Get on it now. It's a rough road but one well worth traveling when you choose and not when your mental health forces you. X. Good luck. X

SW-User

@flimflam None of her post really says the help they need can't happen later. I'm just not sure if the pressure of NOW is always the healthiest aspect. It has to happen as they let it in.

flimflam · M

@SW-User I wish I could agree, but having lost a couple of friends to suicide I'd say as soon as someone utters the words 'I hate myself' it's time to start the process.