I am starting to wonder if I really like men at all, or it's all just peer pressure and societal norms

@uncalled4 On men? How many abusive guys did you go through?

@Kuronekko No, abusive women. I dated a narcissist for six years. I learned my lesson.

@uncalled4 I can't even think of one person who wasn't abusive at some point in our relationship.

@Kuronekko Abuse can take many forms. The narc one extended into punching me in the arm unprovoked and leaving a hole in my wall. That was when she wasn't internet stalking me or calling up my women friends to tell them not to talk to me again.

I think if I had a bunny, she would have boiled it.

I know I will never deal with an abusive partner ever again.

@uncalled4 the father of my kids is one. I spent 9 years under his regime. He still tries to affect our lives over 10 years after leaving.

@Kuronekko I'm sorry to hear that. Mine clung like a barnacle for months after we had zero contact and I had told it was completely over. Later on, she found some fool to marry her and I cannot imagine what that could possibly be like.

@uncalled4 People like that should have a warning label. I came across him on a dating app the other day and it sent a shiver up my spine as it made me realise, you just never know what you are walking into. I had no idea who he was until I had my second daughter 3 years into our relationship.

@Kuronekko It took me 6 years, so you're twice as smart as I.

@uncalled4 it took me 9 years to break out of it.