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Latest scammer? Or what?

Yes, it’s true. Every once in a while, I meet somebody that I just click with. And they live close enough to potentially arrange a face-to-face meeting. This latest girl was very interesting. And was enthusiastic to meet. We traded Personal phone numbers and have been communicating offsite for quite a while.

Recently, we decided to meet. With a winter storm canceling our first attempt, the second attempt she confirmed not just once, not just twice but three times that we were still on track. Hotel reservations, bookings for this and that, sent a her few gifts prior to our meeting her home address, flowers, etc. As the date got closer, she started disappearing unreachable for days at a time.

This is a girl that would text me every day multiple times a day. And then nothing. Completely off grid. And then she would come back with some weird excuse like her cell phone was broken and couldn’t get it fixed over the weekend. And then she would resume texting me every day multiple times a day. So I blew it off. And then it happened again, and then it happened a third time. So I questioned it, how can a phone keep breaking while we are in the final days prior to our meeting? But there was no response to the question. No reply to are you still on track. I’m stuck having sent gifts. Made reservations. And bookings that I cannot cancel.

This girl does not have the common courtesy to be truthful and honest. I even asked her are you seeing someone else? It’s OK if you are because we’re just getting to know each other and there’s no expectation of loyalty. Just honesty. She insisted she was not. Yet she kept going off the grid unexplained. After the third time, I suspect she was too ashamed to admit that perhaps she did have a boyfriend or was working two guys simultaneously. Who knows. Either way she wasn’t honest, accepted gifts and didn’t even have the common courtesy to tell me to cancel the reservations while I still could.

Guys, if you are communicating with this girl, please be aware. Be very, very limited on what you commit to and what you spend prior to your first meeting.

Girls if you’re reading this, I don’t ask for much. Just honesty and integrity. Let me know what you’re really doing so we understand what’s going on. Be honest about your situation. It’s OK, we don’t judge. That’s not what Similiar Worlds is about. It’s about meeting like-minded people, and then being honest about everything and then who knows what the future provides. But if you have to lie and deceive, then it reflects poorly on you. If you’re just here fantasizing with no intentions of hooking up in person, say so. Don’t lead a person on thinking there’s going to be a meeting that just never happens. Whatever the case is, honesty is everything.

Why do I make this public? I hope that men perhaps will learn from my mistake. And women reading this will realize how important honesty really is. The integrity that we have to carry with ourselves day and then day out when we look at ourselves in the mirror and say to ourselves, I am a person who… Ought to be positive about ourselves. If you’re looking at yourself in the mirror saying I’m a person who lies, cheats and scams, then you have some real work to do. There’s no room in society for that.

Who is this girl that refuses say what’s really going on?

32DDgirl
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TheThinker · 61-69, M
I say this as kindly as I possibly can, but what did you expect from an account with a provocative handle like that?!

Or the (first!) post in their history that reads "Sending nudes – I would love to share pictures and videos especially with the old men."

Or the one that debates becoming an OnlyFans model?

I'm afraid you need to learn to become a LOT more cynical, old son.

Did you ever speak to them on the phone, or better still see them on cam? If not then it's entirely possible that "she" never existed at all, at least not in the way you thought.

I know it hurts. Over twenty years ago I spent several months getting emotionally involved with a 28yo "woman" travelling the world working cruises, who turned out to be your classic 55yo 350lb male truck driver sat at home in an apartment in Hull (northern UK port town).

Thankfully there was no money involved – nor would I have let there be – it was just for the benefit of his sad little fantasy life. But NEVER again.

Chin up, move on, and keep your wallet closed next time.
bert199 · 51-55, M
@TheThinker fair enough - yes i did talk to her. had per personal phone. and home address. I do background checks on truthfinder.com for anyone i decide to meet in person to make sure they are legit. This one checked out. she didn't pump me for money or gifts - she requested the meeting face to face. I sent the gifts after the meeting arrangement and birthday flowers. The rest of the money was for reservations. that's on me for sure. the thing that upset me more than anything is the direct question: are you dating anyone else? she answered no, and clearly the answer was yes. She was hiding me and likely got herself in a jam once i figured it out. Thanks for your feedback
TheThinker · 61-69, M
@bert199 Fair enough back to you, seems she was either a very sophisticated scammer (or more likely one that didn't care about her RL details being revealed while she scammed people) or, as you say, she actually had multiple people on the go. Maybe both.

I had the latter happen to me with someone I met in RL 15 or so years ago, couldn't work out why she wouldn't commit when we got on like a house on fire. Turned out there were two of us, she couldn't decide, eventually fessed up, dumped both of us, and moved on with her life.

Apologies for thinking that you were more naïve than you were, but I'll leave my message up unedited as a warning to others.

Peace be with you.