How far should you go with by helping people ?

Basically they be dumping there problems onto me non stop and I can’t deal with it .
They’ll end up fine an I’ll be the one who’d end up in pysche ward .
So how far should I go with helping people .
I’m only a normal person and I don’t have answers most of the time and cause really the answer to that is that I’m not God .
How far should you go cause at times you be brain washed into helping people and they be going over and over the same stuff .
See when your doing it for so long helping people or being there for them (16years of it) when you back off you be thinking your a very selfish person .

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Mindful · 56-60, F

Say, “I want you to write it down before you tell me, it’s therapeutic”
And just tell them you have a headache migraine etc

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@Mindful I’m worn out from it .
I do a lot of writing , but this one isn’t writing . It’s problem after problem I’m hearing

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@Mindful See it’s my own fault at times cause I be running and racing for them and I can’t say no to them

Mindful · 56-60, F

@riseofthemachine yes. Learning how to say no is hard when you’re insecure

LadyGrace ·

@riseofthemachine That's no good honey. You mustn't keep that up. That's going too far on their part. They should consider you, your situation and your feelings. Been there, done that.

LadyGrace ·

@riseofthemachine For your own sake you're going to have to say no to people if they are taking advantage of you. Who's going to be around when you get sick and need help? I doubt it will be them. It's okay to say no. You know your own limits, so don't go against yourself and push yourself too far. Boundaries with people is important. Otherwise they take advantage.