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I Am Traditional When It Comes To Gender Roles

This may be unpopular, but yes, I do. My opinion is based on traditional male/female roles as that is my experience.

I am traditional in small and big ways.

Small: I rarely will make the first move- I might nudge or take a step but I wait for a man 99% of the time. If he checks me in some way I will retreat like a turtle and never make another advance. I look to him for guidance and tailor my behavior based on his reactions. I observe it all very carefully. I will never call him unless he specifically asks me to. I will not ask him on a date. In conversations he gets the last word unless it's a really bad argument.

Big: Though I support a woman having her own career, I think there's not a thing wrong or shameful in him having a career and her staying home and taking care of it and the family.

Having been raised not to depend on anyone, especially men, I can say from experience it is unhealthy and unrealistic. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being part of a traditional role relationship.
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TheGoodGuyM
I prefer the traditional roles too, as long as there is mutual love and respect for one another 馃檪
abooklover56-60, F
@TheGoodGuy Exactly.
TheGoodGuyM
@abooklover I think the problem only arises if the guy takes advantage of the situation and treats her like crap.
abooklover56-60, F
@TheGoodGuy You nailed it on the head. That makes women reluctant. None of us wants to end up empty-handed as totally happened to me. It will take me until retirement to dig out from how he left me. And he's quite well off. Life can be a bitch.
TheGoodGuyM
@abooklover Sorry to hear it left you like that... People can suck. One of my uncles was going through the process of divorcing his wife - they had set up a business in his wife's name as he had bad credit history, the business was running for about 15 years. He ran it but she didn't work there but when the time came she wanted to take the whole business for herself! Just bcoz they had set it up in her name! In the end I think she agreed to take 10k and pissed off...

People just need to be good and honest and work all that crap out in a good way and break on good terms, its possible I believe if both people are willing :)
abooklover56-60, F
@TheGoodGuy Thank you for your sentiment but I chose em-my bed, have to lie in it. My two ex husbands could compete for the ahole Hall of Fame. I have stories that would deter anyone.
That sucks about your Uncle. Yes if everyone could be an adult and not out to injure other people the world would be a better place.
TheGoodGuyM
@abooklover indeed.
Sounds bad.. I hope the next guy is a really good one :)