I always blame myself.

I think it is the human condition that everything is our personal fault. I feel it’s important to believe that because it gives us the power to progress ourselves. That being said, we cannot change every single thing about our personality or rewrite our character. There are going to be parts of our nature that are simply permanent no matter what kind of nurturing or conditioning it undergoes.

Still, we are able to adapt to a whole lot more than people are willing to admit and even when it comes to what we can’t adjust, it’s better to take the blame for it anyways. As unfair as it might be to take responsibility for something you genuinely can’t help, that’s the only way to be ready for what you can. Otherwise you have no reason to advance in life since it’s apparently on everything else to do so. We all know that insufferable type of person who can do no wrong.

You should pick the life best suited to who you truly are, but do not hold anything else accountable for your incompatibilities. If you do, you’ll only become some victim who judges and refuses to improve the parts of yourself that could’ve been developed if you had kept an open mind.