Did I do wrong?
A very close friend of mine joined this huge company in February. Ofcourse I was very happy for him. He is well educated etc and has a great work ethic. His bosses love him and he has great potential. Probably because he is from a small town, he still is a little under confident while communicating with the corporate folks he works with.
So.... from his very first month in February he always asks my help for introductions, presentations, how to reply to some emails etc.
And I am more than happy to help him.
The thing is, probably because he is comfortable with me, he shoots me a text
"Write me an introduction for my presentation."
"Write me an invitation for next weekend's event."
"Give me a good reply of 2 lines for this email."
Mind you, I do not work in this company and am not related to all this in any way.
I.... feel like I am being taken for granted. A please in front would do the trick. Probably its because we are close and he isnt used to using please and other such words with friends. Nevertheless, it ruffles my feathers.
I still do it for the friendship.
Last week he asked me to write a reply for some email. I declined. I said he can very well handle email replies on his own. I could tell he was a little take aback by that.
After that, he is more polite.
"Could you write this for me?" Etc.
I noticed the change in tone.
Today he texted me to write an introduction for him for next weekend's big event.
I told him no.
I am tired of writing introductions for him when I have done it over and over and over again. He knows how it's done since I have done it for him numerous times before so I told him to do it himself.
He says, "Dude dont do this to me."
I told him to write the first draft and I can sharpen it.
He said okay and has not responded.
The whole point of helping is.... to show them how it's done. Not to be taken for granted and to be expected to spoonfed him. This is my opinion.
Ofcourse he does appreciate me many times. But other times, I dont get a reply after I submit my "task."
We are close friends but I feel there are limits. He probably thinks I am unemployed and am not busy as him. But that's not a valid excuse. There are many things around the home that I need to do.
Also, for big tasks, I will help him because I know he will need it. But for things I have done many times before, he just needs to learn to do it himself.
Probably he feels a little bad and thinks I am acting too pricey when he needs my help but I do not feel any remorse.
So.... from his very first month in February he always asks my help for introductions, presentations, how to reply to some emails etc.
And I am more than happy to help him.
The thing is, probably because he is comfortable with me, he shoots me a text
"Write me an introduction for my presentation."
"Write me an invitation for next weekend's event."
"Give me a good reply of 2 lines for this email."
Mind you, I do not work in this company and am not related to all this in any way.
I.... feel like I am being taken for granted. A please in front would do the trick. Probably its because we are close and he isnt used to using please and other such words with friends. Nevertheless, it ruffles my feathers.
I still do it for the friendship.
Last week he asked me to write a reply for some email. I declined. I said he can very well handle email replies on his own. I could tell he was a little take aback by that.
After that, he is more polite.
"Could you write this for me?" Etc.
I noticed the change in tone.
Today he texted me to write an introduction for him for next weekend's big event.
I told him no.
I am tired of writing introductions for him when I have done it over and over and over again. He knows how it's done since I have done it for him numerous times before so I told him to do it himself.
He says, "Dude dont do this to me."
I told him to write the first draft and I can sharpen it.
He said okay and has not responded.
The whole point of helping is.... to show them how it's done. Not to be taken for granted and to be expected to spoonfed him. This is my opinion.
Ofcourse he does appreciate me many times. But other times, I dont get a reply after I submit my "task."
We are close friends but I feel there are limits. He probably thinks I am unemployed and am not busy as him. But that's not a valid excuse. There are many things around the home that I need to do.
Also, for big tasks, I will help him because I know he will need it. But for things I have done many times before, he just needs to learn to do it himself.
Probably he feels a little bad and thinks I am acting too pricey when he needs my help but I do not feel any remorse.
26-30, F
