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No means no.

I never understood why people get so defensive when you tell them no. Or they get upset when you finally snap after telling them no so many times. In my experience it’s mainly the men here who like just cannot accept no. They ask to chat with me, I view their profile and if something seems off or u find something I don’t like; then I say no. Even after the fact I say no they’ll say ok, then wait literal days/weeks or months, and decide to ask again.

Recently this guy I said No to over a year ago, asked me again. His words were “are you willing to talk with people my age now?” This guy is like 50, im in my early 20’s. Hell no.

I told him that it’s creepy he waited an entire year just to ask again, and I told him it made me uncomfortable. He then goes on about how it’s not creepy because we’re both adults; and his “class mate married a man who was 12 years older right after graduating”

Let me just say If a girl says no. Always assume that she means it. Dont wait around just to ask her again days, weeks, months, or even years later.
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DiegoWolfe · 36-40
The issue i always see here is a large number of guys and girls were not educated on how social interactions happen. Like men of all ages just want to have erotica for them to wank off too, and girls have this overly idealized partner that many cant fit into, and when either group come upon a person they descend like a pack of wolves and its just super sad...
AvaWORLDZ · 22-25, F
@DiegoWolfe Well, that really doesn’t have anything to do with the subject at hand. The first part is correct, but most women really just want basic things from their partners like: Emotional intelligence, self awareness, self discipline, and security.

Me personally I’m not looking to date here, I just want a regular chat with people that are my age. Which isn’t asking for alot. That’s the bare minimum.

Also it’s a good thing to have high standards, as long as you yourself meet those high standards. I don’t think anyone especially women should lower their standards so that others (mainly men) can get a chance. I think it’s a good thing to want more or the best for yourself. Of course being realistic too, like if they’re trying to find a partner who is just like the absolute Ideal lover here. I would definitely recommend looking in other places. But lowering standards? No.
DiegoWolfe · 36-40
@AvaWORLDZ Okay thank you for letting me know what you meant in your OP i see i misunderstood!