Am I just bad at conversation, or do these people have stalker tendencies? [I Am Bad At Conversation]

Occassionally I'll get a random message out of the blue from someone I chatted with like two years ago, and they'll pick up that conversation as if there wasn't a huge gap of time in between. Like, they'll bring up very specific details about the last thing we talked about, and I'm sitting there in the dark, because I completely forgot everything. It's always those people that have nothing on their profile page too, so I have no way of reminding myself who they even are.

Am I just that bad for completely forgetting a person's existence, or are they just being stalker-ish? I mean, are they really re-reading every conversation as a refresher before they start again for whatever reason? Also, why bother? If we had a short, meaningless conversation two years ago, and haven't interacted since, what makes them think I'm interested in starting that up again? Honestly, it's kinda creepy.

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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

I don’t think it’s stalkerish behavior as much as it’s a form of desperation for whatever they’re seeking through reignited the connection. Two years is way too long to go without conversing, especially if the opportunity has been there to have a conversation. Going back to refresh the memory of what was spoken is just a form of them trying to get in your good graces by showing compassion for the conversation that they willingly put on hold to seek out other conversations that fulfilled what they needed at the time. People have their reasons for doing what they do, which is often for selfish purposes, but I’ve learned that it’s best to continue on my journey without that kind of person in it. Time and energy are too precious to spend them engaging with someone who uses you as a time filler as they see fit.

FaeLuna · 31-35, F

@PerfectionOfTheHeart I think that pretty much nails it. It's a desperate move to try and restart a conversation with someone they think they can just contact whenever they want, drop when they're done, and expect to always be there.