GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Chat and conversate.
Trial and error until you figure it out.
Trial and error until you figure it out.
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Dan193 · 31-35, M
@GuyWithOpinions yeah reviewing those conversations like u said, makes me think of asking questions like this 😂
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
@emiliya conversate, converse both mean to have conversation.
Nightwings · F
Just by doing it honestly, you train your social skills with time. ^^
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@Nightwings yeah, I see, I just sometimes wonder if being overly curious about somebody can feel annoying to that person. Like getting asked questions about everything they say. Not much of a conversation in my opinion, what do u think?
Nightwings · F
@Dan193 You can interject your personal observations too, and hope you have something in common. It does happen that you don't have anything in common with a person, in that case you just keep it light. Keep it light by saying you have this thing you need to do now as you leave for example. Other people ask questions too so it won't just be one-sided (unless they don't want to talk to you, that's a social clue).
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@Nightwings thanks for your advices
Ask questions , listen without interrupting. When asked questions back, answer them genuinely. And so on..
Magicianzini · M
@Dan193 Yes to this .. and people will often feel they are under a microscope. Limit the number of questions - that is, space them out adequately dependent upon the time involved.
Show them your collection of scabs
exexec · 70-79, C
Practice. Ask questions that are easily answered. Show an interest in their thoughts.
RedBaron · M
Maybe you can.
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JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
Chat on here?
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
@Dan193
Just say what is one your mind, and maybe you will make a connection.
Take photos of pretty places and post them on here then have conversations about them.
Just say what is one your mind, and maybe you will make a connection.
Take photos of pretty places and post them on here then have conversations about them.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@JoyfulSilence good idea, thanks
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
@Dan193
I find people will look if there is a few photos.
It is the only way they can see them all! 😁
I find people will look if there is a few photos.
It is the only way they can see them all! 😁
Zonuss · 46-50, M
Its simple. Just be creative. And be yourself.
Magicianzini · M
Why do you want to do this? What's the purpose?
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@Magicianzini to hold a relationship with a friend, that I'm afraid it might fizzle oit or they moght get annoyed with me for trying to talk to them all the time
Magicianzini · M
@Dan193 Thanks for responding. You seem to be a good person. Be careful out there. Most aren't what they seem and an insecure approach towards others often results in harm and/or just being used.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@Magicianzini yeah thanks for the words of caution, that's why I want to get better at it
HijabaDabbaDoo · F
Just do it🤷🏽♀ Make mistakes, be awkward, rinse and repeat until your brain starts rewiring how it perceives social interactions. Instead of focusing on how to come across, focus on being interested in getting to know them so the pressure to perform isn't there.
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@HijabaDabbaDoo yeah but I don't want to ruin the relationship by being a buffoon x.x any way without making the mistakes?
Also I am interested but don't know the right words to say to send across the feeling
Also I am interested but don't know the right words to say to send across the feeling
Nightwings · F
@HijabaDabbaDoo
@Dan193 This is exactly what I was trying to say too. It's by far the main thing people are missing when they have trouble holding conversations. You gotta try it IRL.
Instead of focusing on how to come across, focus on being interested in getting to know them so the pressure to perform isn't there.
@Dan193 This is exactly what I was trying to say too. It's by far the main thing people are missing when they have trouble holding conversations. You gotta try it IRL.
















