Why is it that almost every community (and individuals in general) that claims to be accepting and wholesome are usually toxic as heck?

while accusing everyone else of being toxic?
(for the record, in this specific instance, I'm talking about the ASMR community)

beneath surface level those guys are basically walking landmines,

I don't even need to try, it's more I don't even know how NOT to tick those guys off 😂🫠

but maybe it's just a Reddit thing? I dunno 🤔