Any idea about why we don't find people around when we really need them ?

Somebody told me recently that when an issue arises, men want solutions but women want sympathy. If this holds true in your case you have come to the right place loads of people like to give sympathy here. Not me though I'm more of a, "what did you do this time you w*nker, let's see if we can fix this" person. And then if everything holds true to history we start the job, a friend of yours turns up you disappear, I finish the job, then you reappear and complain about how it was done.