Is your anonymity here more important to you than meeting interesting people you might meet elsewhere?

I’m put off by incomplete profiles of “people” who are afraid of something and have no idea how to deal with how friends in the real world might view their inclusion here as being less than ideal or desirable.

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

You might be too picky, judgmental, and elitist. I'm all about full disclosure, but you first need to prove you are worthy.

Lonar2 · 26-30, F

@MarkPaul What is the point if the person is not who you actually are?

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@Lonar2 Well, the only way you can find that out is by interacting with the person, not their profile which could be (and most likely is) fake. Anyone can create a profile crafted to draw you in. Profiles don't really mean that much especially online. They are less reliable than a CV. What exactly are your intentions?

Lonar2 · 26-30, F

@MarkPaul That’s the purpose of the profile and conversation gleaning what is true about the person

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@Lonar2 That's the ideal purpose of the profile. But dear Lonar2 (if that's your real name), life doesn't often conform to the "ideal purpose." Tbh, it seems like you are searching for a shortcut to getting to know someone and avoiding accountability for your conclusions, decisions, and attitude that comes from putting in the time to learn about someone. You kids today all want everything hand-delivered to you in a nice and neat package so that you don't have to put in the work or risk getting hurt. Real relationships aren't built on the easy way out, I'm afraid. You just may have to learn that on your quest to pursue interactions with people who only have "the perfect profile."