While I underatand this, i don't buy into it.

Look, I go years sometimes with no physical touch from others. Not even platonic, but I don't make that everyone else's problem. The problem is men see *all* touch as sexual, and that makes them predatory and lonely from masculine friendships.

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OogieBoogie · F

Is it purely a man thing tho ?

I reckon many of us suffer from it and react in different ways.

Like, im overly chatty. Im sure its got to do with needing deeper connection and conversation.

Yet when i had a good relationship....i could breeze around, focused on groceries or whatever..... and people were almost invisible.

Now im hypersensitive to them.
I have to be careful. Chat too much to some dude....and they'll follow you !

Since COVID its even worse. People will shy away of you stand too close.
Then we over analyze if someone does stand too close.

Biologically we are geared for touch. We literally physically, mentally, emotionally, biologically, immunologically and endocrinologically need touch.

I do think men are more 'sexually' geared tho. They think about it more often.
So....i can see where a touch might trigger their thinking.

bookerdana · M

@OogieBoogie *follows you*

OogieBoogie · F

@bookerdana its actually a bit scary.
I complimented a mans dog once, and he stalked me round a supermarket. I didn't realize until i had to back track for something that it wasnt just a coincidence. I turned around, and there he was.

It was kinda a sick feeling and made me nervous.

bookerdana · M

@OogieBoogie Oh,I thought you meant on SW..yeah thats scary

OogieBoogie · F

@bookerdana oh...oops😏

Nah, i meant rl

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@OogieBoogie

I do think men are more 'sexually' geared tho. They think about it more often

I think that is the huge issue. Many of them refuse to touch unless it has a sexual potential and since they view it in that light, no touch from a woman makes them feel unlovable. In turn, they start to blame women for their own programming provided by other men.

It's a vicious cycle that can be broken, but only if men want to.

Also, sorry about your rl situation! How frightening! But it illustrates why women have to be protective at all times. You never know the person you are dealing with.

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FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@OogieBoogie Amen!!!! 🙌🙌🙌 Sadly, untik we stop worrying about genitalia, and staet focusing on the actual people, that's not going to happen.