Are you ever amazed at how disappointed you can be in someone?

In the last few years, I've lowered my expectations of people's behavior. A LOT. It's become apparent in the last few days though, I've not lowered them quite enough. *sigh*

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PatKirby · M

Ever since I've come to the realization that I cannot control what other people do, think or believe, my expectations have adjusted themselves quite nicely. In other words, it's no longer a priority, people have to make their own mistakes. Life is too short to worry about the small fry.

If pressed I remind myself it's not my duty to convince them of something - it's my duty to tell them. They have to take the football from there into the end zone by themselves. Try it, you'll sleep better.

LadyBronte · 61-69, F

@PatKirby I never worry if anyone takes my advice or not. Like you - I see it as being in their court after that, to do as they wish. What gets me are those who disappoint on a deeper emotional level. There are times I honestly can't get passed the unbelievable....and I don't know if I should actually call it cruelty, a lack of respect, or simply stupidity - but in any case, I am working on it. It's the best I can do.

PatKirby · M

@LadyBronte

I know exactly where you're coming from due to a thirty year friendship going south due to his inability and immaturity to deal properly with a family member's death and so began treats others poorly and disrespectfully without remorse. No small issue he still owes me money and conveniently forgot about it. I personally discovered the reason why over the years his family members treated him the way they did. C'est la vie.

Sounds like you're well prepared and have seen some bumpy rodeos in the past. Your zen is strong. All I can say is patience and communication are key.

LadyBronte · 61-69, F

@PatKirby I'm sorry about your former friend. That can be a rocky road to traverse. Probably best to write off what he owes you - chances are nothing you say will make a difference.

Yeah, I've seen enough of those bumpy rodeos to last me a life time. Some days my zen is strong. Other days, I can't even spell zen. 😆