How come some people genuinely think society should pay for them just to exist and do what they want all day?

I mean, what makes these people think they're so special that they shouldn't have to get a job doing something that isn't fun enough in their minds, yet the rest of us should in order to support them? I keep finding more and more people like this, and it perplexes me how one can be so delusional and full of themselves.

A good handful of people I know (all of them in their late 20s or older) have quit their jobs to do Twitch, OnlyFans, YouTube, TikTok, or something of the like. A few of them constantly complain about being broke and elicit pity from others, and also beg for money. One of them spends like there's no tomorrow and then proceeds to whine about having no money and begs for it like it's owed to them. Another one publicly bashed their former job with a story that smells very much of BS and is also a perpetual victim. They all have this massive sense of self-importance, like the world should be very concerned with them and look to them for their infinite wisdom with their "influencer" BS, and they all seem to feel entitled to be financially supported by others. Some of them also up and decide to live in a vehicle to travel the country with no job and then have no idea what to do once their money runs out. I even know adults who fully expect their parents to fund their very expensive hobbies and let them live at home rent-free indefinitely. Shit, I know people who are pushing 30 who refuse to get a job because "nothing interests them" or "they're not ready." Like, excuse me?? Do you think people work in places like the sewage treatment plants, in hot and miserable factories and warehouses, or doing highly dangerous jobs like being linemen because they find it interesting? No, it's because somebody has to do it! Also, how are you nearing 30 years old and "not ready" to be an adult and get your shit together? You'd better get ready, because the gravy train won't last forever!

There are even people trying to convince others that they are mentally or physically impaired far beyond what anyone with common sense would believe they are just so someone will pity them and support them. I know someone in their late 20s who actually WANTS to be admitted into a group home thinking they'll just be taken care of, yet gets pissed at their parents asking them to do things and likes to say "I'm an adult, I don't answer to anybody." You absolutely answer to someone if you're living under someone else's roof and being supported by someone else's money, and you WILL absolutely answer to someone, no questions asked, if you move into a group home (not to mention they're not a rest home for people who don't feel like working, that's not how it works). Do they think a group home will allow them the freedom to do whatever they like? Lol.

Oh, and I'm eternally sick of mental health constantly being used as an excuse for this shit. At this point, a lot of these people are milking that for all it is worth. I don't buy for a minute that the same people that can't work "because anxiety" can go to concerts with no problem. The mental health industry absolutely has ownership in enabling this BS, too. Everyone and their brother is suddenly diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and it's starting to lose its meaning at this point.

I don't mean to sound like an ass, lol, but this crap just astounds me. It's even more concerning that there are enabling parents that raise their kids to grow up thinking this is okay, and expecting others to take care of them, and/or believing their comfort and wants are more important than those of others' and that they're entitled to money and things they refuse to work for.

thisguy20 · 41-45, M

I think there are several things at play here.

If you have a job where you are expected to do the work of two or three people and don't get paid enough to live on, you're probably going to say "screw this"

We keep seeing pics and vids of people on fabulous and very long vacations trips, clearly these people don't work; which leads people to start saying "why can't I do that too"

Some people have figured out that "i have anxiety" is a way to get out of having to do things they don't want to do. If it worked once, then why not again...

The truth of the matter is a sizable portion of the population does have anxiety and depression which has been caused by a lot of sh*t in society (housing costs as an example) which is beyond our (individual) control.

anonnn777 · F

@thisguy20 It's definitely true that people do what works, I will say that much.

Social media is also usually a farce. Just because people post that they have multiple long vacations doesn't necessarily make it true. People like to make their lives out to be much more grand online than they really are. I mean, someone is paying for those vacations because they certainly aren't free. Anyone who is enabling someone who refuses to work to go on multiple vacations is screwing themselves over big time. Most of the people I know IRL that go on vacations do it once per year max and save up for it. Typically they're couples who pool money together and put a small fraction of each paycheck into a vacation fund until they can afford one. They absolutely still work, they just go on a one week vacation once per year. I don't know anyone who is constantly vacationing and I'm not sure that truly exists outside of the elite rich, maybe. Even those "influencers" are known to stage and edit photos to make it look like they're living a life that isn't real.

While it sucks to have to do the work of multiple people, is it really better to expect others to subsidize your lifestyle because you don't feel like working, but feel entitled to the fruits of other people's labor? This only contributes to the problem. The people who do work would likely not have to take over the work of 2-3 people if people would stop quitting their jobs for this nonsense and actually go back to work and pull their own weight and contribute to society.

I also think there's a difference between dealing with problems in life and having legitimate anxiety and depression disorders. The problem is that society is enabling these people to use anxiety and depression as an excuse to avoid responsibility, and they act as if no one else deals with problems and stress in their lives that they have to deal with. The mental health industry has given people this false idea that it's not normal to face issues and have to solve them in life, and that they're unique for experiencing the emotions of anxiety and depression (as in feeling depressed; again, not having a disorder). The pills they push onto everyone only exacerbate the problem as well.